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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 654828" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I speak from my own personal experience. I and my sisters were sexually and physically abused by our bio-father. I was 2 yeas old when he started and was 10 when it finally ended. He also abused many of our friends as he was in a profession that put him in contact with children. We did not find out about our friends until we were all adults.</p><p>My older sisters found the courage to tell our mother who thank God believed them and she divorced our bio-father.</p><p>We lived in a small town and this was not something that anyone was familiar with, it was 1968. Our bio-father swore he would never touch us again, what a lie but the judge believed him. He was very sneaky and very careful and continued to abuse me for a few more years, you see the courts gave him unsupervised visitation. I was still very young and he had assured me that this was how "daddy's" showed their daughters how much they loved them but that it was very special and private and it was a secret. When my mother would ask me how the visits went and did "daddy" behave I told her "yes" because I thought what was happening was normal. It wasn't until after a weekend visit with bio-father that my other sister told my mom that "daddy wants Tanya to sleep in his room now" I was never alone with my bio-father again.</p><p>That was the beginning of a long and painful journey.</p><p></p><p>I was lucky in that my mother re-married a wonderful man who was a wonderful father to me but I was damaged from what my bio-father did to me as were my sisters. It took a long time to work through it all but we all have managed to survive the abuse we endured.</p><p></p><p>I read A Child Called It many years ago and I could relate to so much. I don't feel the need to give specific details of how I was abused as there are many different ways to abuse a child. Abuse is abuse. I consider myself one of the lucky ones that was able to survive and go on to have a good life while so many end up as prostitutes, alcoholics, drug addicts, abusers themselves or all the above. Reading his book was very therapeutic for me and for that I am grateful that he shared his story.</p><p></p><p>As for members of the family denying any abuse happened, I too know what that is like. My grandmother, bio-fathers mother, whom I loved very much never believed me or my sisters. She would say things like "I know what you and your sisters say happened but I just don't believe it" and of course bio-father would never admit to his mother what he had done. I had the betrayal of my bio-father but also my grandmother. It's a different kind of pain, while she never hurt me physically the fact that she did not believe me hurt so deeply.</p><p></p><p>Abusers are very good at being sneaky and manipulation.</p><p></p><p>I have very vivid memories of what I endured. Over the years my sisters and I have discussed the abuse. My one sister has always been amazed at how well I remember things as she didn't. She repressed many of the memories but they have a way of resurfacing. A few years ago she called me to tell me that some of the memories started to come back, she shared with me what she was remembering and I was able to confirm them for her.</p><p></p><p>As for David Pelzer, I believe him as I know first hand how horrific abuse to a child can be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 654828, member: 18516"] I speak from my own personal experience. I and my sisters were sexually and physically abused by our bio-father. I was 2 yeas old when he started and was 10 when it finally ended. He also abused many of our friends as he was in a profession that put him in contact with children. We did not find out about our friends until we were all adults. My older sisters found the courage to tell our mother who thank God believed them and she divorced our bio-father. We lived in a small town and this was not something that anyone was familiar with, it was 1968. Our bio-father swore he would never touch us again, what a lie but the judge believed him. He was very sneaky and very careful and continued to abuse me for a few more years, you see the courts gave him unsupervised visitation. I was still very young and he had assured me that this was how "daddy's" showed their daughters how much they loved them but that it was very special and private and it was a secret. When my mother would ask me how the visits went and did "daddy" behave I told her "yes" because I thought what was happening was normal. It wasn't until after a weekend visit with bio-father that my other sister told my mom that "daddy wants Tanya to sleep in his room now" I was never alone with my bio-father again. That was the beginning of a long and painful journey. I was lucky in that my mother re-married a wonderful man who was a wonderful father to me but I was damaged from what my bio-father did to me as were my sisters. It took a long time to work through it all but we all have managed to survive the abuse we endured. I read A Child Called It many years ago and I could relate to so much. I don't feel the need to give specific details of how I was abused as there are many different ways to abuse a child. Abuse is abuse. I consider myself one of the lucky ones that was able to survive and go on to have a good life while so many end up as prostitutes, alcoholics, drug addicts, abusers themselves or all the above. Reading his book was very therapeutic for me and for that I am grateful that he shared his story. As for members of the family denying any abuse happened, I too know what that is like. My grandmother, bio-fathers mother, whom I loved very much never believed me or my sisters. She would say things like "I know what you and your sisters say happened but I just don't believe it" and of course bio-father would never admit to his mother what he had done. I had the betrayal of my bio-father but also my grandmother. It's a different kind of pain, while she never hurt me physically the fact that she did not believe me hurt so deeply. Abusers are very good at being sneaky and manipulation. I have very vivid memories of what I endured. Over the years my sisters and I have discussed the abuse. My one sister has always been amazed at how well I remember things as she didn't. She repressed many of the memories but they have a way of resurfacing. A few years ago she called me to tell me that some of the memories started to come back, she shared with me what she was remembering and I was able to confirm them for her. As for David Pelzer, I believe him as I know first hand how horrific abuse to a child can be. [/QUOTE]
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