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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 739977" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I read it that way as well Leafy. It brought back a memory of a very similar experience with my daughter......in fact, it was the day she was released from jail the first time. We picked her up and she held on to me and we stood there for a long time holding each other. It's difficult when you're right there in the moment to see how it all fits in the long game, however, that really was a turning point. That opening meant something then, which didn't stop the chaos right away, but it was the beginning of my daughter making strides in a more positive direction. When I look back, it was one small step for her.... after another....and another..... from that point on. And, each step for her was a step for me to step back and allow her to slowly remove herself from many of the unsafe situations she was involved in......without my stepping in to help. I wanted it to happen faster than it did, but in retrospect, she was systematically changing on her own time in her own way. She did stay with us once or twice after that, but it never worked out for either of us. It wasn't always intense and dramatic, it simply didn't work because she and I realized she could not live within my boundaries. She required more freedom, and that's ok, it just didn't work in our home. (She is not now nor was she then, involved with substance abuse.)</p><p></p><p>You sound balanced and centered......I know it's not easy.....there isn't anything for you to do......it's in their hands.</p><p>I will keep your daughter's in my prayers.</p><p>Sending you much love and many hugs......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 739977, member: 13542"] I read it that way as well Leafy. It brought back a memory of a very similar experience with my daughter......in fact, it was the day she was released from jail the first time. We picked her up and she held on to me and we stood there for a long time holding each other. It's difficult when you're right there in the moment to see how it all fits in the long game, however, that really was a turning point. That opening meant something then, which didn't stop the chaos right away, but it was the beginning of my daughter making strides in a more positive direction. When I look back, it was one small step for her.... after another....and another..... from that point on. And, each step for her was a step for me to step back and allow her to slowly remove herself from many of the unsafe situations she was involved in......without my stepping in to help. I wanted it to happen faster than it did, but in retrospect, she was systematically changing on her own time in her own way. She did stay with us once or twice after that, but it never worked out for either of us. It wasn't always intense and dramatic, it simply didn't work because she and I realized she could not live within my boundaries. She required more freedom, and that's ok, it just didn't work in our home. (She is not now nor was she then, involved with substance abuse.) You sound balanced and centered......I know it's not easy.....there isn't anything for you to do......it's in their hands. I will keep your daughter's in my prayers. Sending you much love and many hugs...... [/QUOTE]
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