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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 740794" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>First, I'm so sorry about your cat. These tiny furry lives leave such big holes in ours when they leave us.</p><p></p><p>Now, Bart:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh. My. Hun you know as well as I do how dangerous this is. I wasn't much older than he is when I went to the ER to get my B. P. tested and it was 210/135. They wouldn't let me leave the ER. I spent 3 days in the hospital until they found the right 3 drugs to keep it down. I already was on drugs...wrong ones.</p><p></p><p>My question is, if he doesn't go to the doctor, how does he know it's that high? Could he be exaggerating for some reason? Could he just be trying to get your emotions involved? Because he seems mean and petty and spiteful and just nasty (sorry) but he doesn't seem stupid. He has a good job. He has health insurance. To ignore this is STUPID. Not just a little stupid, but dumb as a rock stupid!</p><p></p><p>And THIS:</p><p></p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/overreactsmiley.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":overreactsmiley:" title="overreactsmiley :overreactsmiley:" data-shortname=":overreactsmiley:" /></p><p></p><p>This just says to me he isn't really sick, unless it's mental. You just don't ignore your B. P. and chest pains at 41 years old with a child to care for and you don't react that way to the ONLY WAY TO DEAL with it. What the hell does he want? You to mail him a magic pill? It's ridiculous.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is so completely true. Given what he says when you do engage...well, what else can you do.</p><p></p><p>SWOT, he's a grown man. He's an intelligent man. And you are right, you can't save him or change him any more than any mom here can save or change their addict children. I wish there was something more to say.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It's very sad for your grand. Treating him like his buddy and more importantly TELLING him about his problems is a great way to give the ex ammo. Speaking of which:</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I thought he won?</p><p></p><p>But regardless - to be honest, it's possibly a bad thing, but I wish I could talk to him. I'd say "You don't want to hear go to a doctor. So be it. But I'm going to say this and you should think about it. You have a STROKE or a heart attack and you're unable to even take care of yourself - guess who gets 100% custody of Jr? You may as well give him away if you aren't going to pay enough attention to your health to live to see him grow up."</p><p></p><p>Of course, I'm not his mom and I wouldn't care if he never spoke to me again.</p><p></p><p>SWOT, I'm so sorry. I wish there was something else to say. Do NOT let him torture you. You can do nothing else but speak the truth and if he doesn't want to hear it, well...I guess he'll stop calling.</p><p></p><p>I really wish I could help. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 740794, member: 17309"] First, I'm so sorry about your cat. These tiny furry lives leave such big holes in ours when they leave us. Now, Bart: Oh. My. Hun you know as well as I do how dangerous this is. I wasn't much older than he is when I went to the ER to get my B. P. tested and it was 210/135. They wouldn't let me leave the ER. I spent 3 days in the hospital until they found the right 3 drugs to keep it down. I already was on drugs...wrong ones. My question is, if he doesn't go to the doctor, how does he know it's that high? Could he be exaggerating for some reason? Could he just be trying to get your emotions involved? Because he seems mean and petty and spiteful and just nasty (sorry) but he doesn't seem stupid. He has a good job. He has health insurance. To ignore this is STUPID. Not just a little stupid, but dumb as a rock stupid! And THIS: :overreactsmiley: This just says to me he isn't really sick, unless it's mental. You just don't ignore your B. P. and chest pains at 41 years old with a child to care for and you don't react that way to the ONLY WAY TO DEAL with it. What the hell does he want? You to mail him a magic pill? It's ridiculous. This is so completely true. Given what he says when you do engage...well, what else can you do. SWOT, he's a grown man. He's an intelligent man. And you are right, you can't save him or change him any more than any mom here can save or change their addict children. I wish there was something more to say. It's very sad for your grand. Treating him like his buddy and more importantly TELLING him about his problems is a great way to give the ex ammo. Speaking of which: I thought he won? But regardless - to be honest, it's possibly a bad thing, but I wish I could talk to him. I'd say "You don't want to hear go to a doctor. So be it. But I'm going to say this and you should think about it. You have a STROKE or a heart attack and you're unable to even take care of yourself - guess who gets 100% custody of Jr? You may as well give him away if you aren't going to pay enough attention to your health to live to see him grow up." Of course, I'm not his mom and I wouldn't care if he never spoke to me again. SWOT, I'm so sorry. I wish there was something else to say. Do NOT let him torture you. You can do nothing else but speak the truth and if he doesn't want to hear it, well...I guess he'll stop calling. I really wish I could help. :( [/QUOTE]
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