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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 10442" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Not only am I glad you are going to buy something for yourself instead of capitulating to difficult child's demands, but I am glad FOR YOU because your thought patterns indicate a mom who has changed the way she feels ABOUT HERSELF.</p><p></p><p>That is the hardest battle we parents face, as we try to recover from the chaos and trauma our difficult child kids have created in our lives.</p><p></p><p>Good for you, carolanne.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the cautions Witz has related, too.</p><p></p><p>I have never had that happen to me, but I can understand how it COULD happen.</p><p></p><p>I would call the treatment center. When you do though, my suggestion would be that you not defend anything ~ simply tell them you received a call from difficult child saying she needs new clothes, backpack, etc ~ again. Ask whether they know what happened to the last ones and tell them you cannot afford to keep replacing things difficult child loses or destroys. </p><p></p><p>I would create a record now of when I bought what for difficult child, in case that ever does come up.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your difficult child is very angry about your changed responses to her baloney.</p><p></p><p>Maybe the next step will be that she changes her behaviors, and starts to get a clue about how she has been treating her family.</p><p></p><p>Sending strength and wishing well, carolanne.</p><p></p><p>You are light years ahead of where husband and I were when we went through this stuff.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 10442, member: 3353"] Not only am I glad you are going to buy something for yourself instead of capitulating to difficult child's demands, but I am glad FOR YOU because your thought patterns indicate a mom who has changed the way she feels ABOUT HERSELF. That is the hardest battle we parents face, as we try to recover from the chaos and trauma our difficult child kids have created in our lives. Good for you, carolanne. I agree with the cautions Witz has related, too. I have never had that happen to me, but I can understand how it COULD happen. I would call the treatment center. When you do though, my suggestion would be that you not defend anything ~ simply tell them you received a call from difficult child saying she needs new clothes, backpack, etc ~ again. Ask whether they know what happened to the last ones and tell them you cannot afford to keep replacing things difficult child loses or destroys. I would create a record now of when I bought what for difficult child, in case that ever does come up. It sounds like your difficult child is very angry about your changed responses to her baloney. Maybe the next step will be that she changes her behaviors, and starts to get a clue about how she has been treating her family. Sending strength and wishing well, carolanne. You are light years ahead of where husband and I were when we went through this stuff. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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