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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739107" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>New leaf. Nobody judges you. Anybody would have done as you did. It is all of it on her.</p><p></p><p>I answered the phone last night from my son. And luckily he could not hear me, but inflicted damage via text. How he is traumatized by events involving me.</p><p></p><p>That I was ego fillled. And darkness and evil prevailed. Whatever that means.</p><p></p><p>I replied: look in the mirror. It's you. Not me. And :leave me alone. Adding: I'm blocking you.</p><p></p><p>And then I worried all night and day he would self harm. I have heard nothing since.</p><p></p><p>But i worried. M said: let him live his life. Its his not your responsibility. It has not a thing to do with you. Think positive thoughts. He's mad because you are not doing what he wants. Let him live with it. Don't worry. (I am repeating this, because he's right. I want you to feel better.)</p><p></p><p>I felt like you do. Stabbed in the heart. And guilty. And angry. At myself</p><p></p><p>You see. In relation to us they are predators. They are either seeking to consume what we have. Or retaliating if we do not proffer it, without resistance.</p><p></p><p>New leaf. Her attack is because you don't go belly up.</p><p></p><p>While she is like this, she will not be different.</p><p></p><p>You are her mark. Or her victim. Either/or.</p><p></p><p>She is the boss. She determines your value. She calls the shots. Like a Dom.</p><p></p><p>There is NO possibility if another type of interaction with them. While she is in this mindset.</p><p></p><p>When will she change? If she stays in jail, I think in 6 months WITH NO CONTACT with you she may be more open.</p><p></p><p>Curiously, that is the timeframe m gave me for my own son. About 5 mos. Where m got this number I don't know. But I worked in reception centers in prisons. And it takes that time for the street to wear off.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile. It angers me (at her) that you need to justify yourself to her. Why?</p><p></p><p>I think you are entirely within the right to restrict contact and set your rules. Which could be: letters, no contact, or whatever else you may need.</p><p></p><p>I believe she needs to be curbed. But I could be assessing this thru the lens of my own child.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739107, member: 18958"] New leaf. Nobody judges you. Anybody would have done as you did. It is all of it on her. I answered the phone last night from my son. And luckily he could not hear me, but inflicted damage via text. How he is traumatized by events involving me. That I was ego fillled. And darkness and evil prevailed. Whatever that means. I replied: look in the mirror. It's you. Not me. And :leave me alone. Adding: I'm blocking you. And then I worried all night and day he would self harm. I have heard nothing since. But i worried. M said: let him live his life. Its his not your responsibility. It has not a thing to do with you. Think positive thoughts. He's mad because you are not doing what he wants. Let him live with it. Don't worry. (I am repeating this, because he's right. I want you to feel better.) I felt like you do. Stabbed in the heart. And guilty. And angry. At myself You see. In relation to us they are predators. They are either seeking to consume what we have. Or retaliating if we do not proffer it, without resistance. New leaf. Her attack is because you don't go belly up. While she is like this, she will not be different. You are her mark. Or her victim. Either/or. She is the boss. She determines your value. She calls the shots. Like a Dom. There is NO possibility if another type of interaction with them. While she is in this mindset. When will she change? If she stays in jail, I think in 6 months WITH NO CONTACT with you she may be more open. Curiously, that is the timeframe m gave me for my own son. About 5 mos. Where m got this number I don't know. But I worked in reception centers in prisons. And it takes that time for the street to wear off. Meanwhile. It angers me (at her) that you need to justify yourself to her. Why? I think you are entirely within the right to restrict contact and set your rules. Which could be: letters, no contact, or whatever else you may need. I believe she needs to be curbed. But I could be assessing this thru the lens of my own child. I am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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