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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 644498" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Okay again, WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE?</p><p> </p><p>I can't change him.</p><p> </p><p>I can't make him not do drugs.</p><p> </p><p>I can't do a freaking THING about any of this!</p><p> </p><p>Isn't that the first thing I'm supposed to learn to "detach".</p><p> </p><p><em>Detachment is the:</em></p><p><em>* Ability to allow people, places or things the freedom to be themselves.</em></p><p><em>* Holding back from the need to rescue, save or fix another person from being sick, dysfunctional or irrational.</em></p><p><em>* Giving another person "the space" to be herself.</em></p><p><em>* Disengaging from an over-enmeshed or dependent relationship with people.</em></p><p><em>* Willingness to accept that you cannot change or control a person, place or thing....</em></p><p> </p><p>Read more: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#ixzz3OFuj7RoF" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#ixzz3OFuj7RoF</a></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>We HAVE to pay for the apartment if he doesn't. I've already SAID I'm not paying for Another. Single. Thing.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Duh.</p><p> </p><p>I'm NOT in denial. I KNOW he is AT LEAST smoking pot or K2 or something. But HE doesn't admit a problem, WE can't force a drug test on him, and even if we could he's an ADULT. We can't force him into rehab and forcing any adult into rehab never did any good anyway.</p><p> </p><p>It doesn't matter if he's smoking crack - I CAN'T STOP IT. Really? What do you think I can do short of calling the police, IF I manage to actually catch him in the act of doing drugs?</p><p> </p><p>Please don't think I'm angry at you. I'm NOT. I'm just starting to get frustrated by "distance yourself, detach, he's an adult, let him go, radically accept" messages on one hand and the "OMG he's doing drugs you must act" messages on the other. <em>I can't do both!</em></p><p> </p><p>And <em>please</em>, quit acting like I don't know synthetic pot can kill you. I've said it myself, over and over and over on these threads, that it's MUCH worse than the real thing and scary stuff. I don't need to be reminded or told.</p><p> </p><p>Please, if you have an actual suggestion of something I can DO, tell me - Please! Because short of watching him slowly go down the drain, I've got NOTHING here!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 644498, member: 17309"] Okay again, WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE? I can't change him. I can't make him not do drugs. I can't do a freaking THING about any of this! Isn't that the first thing I'm supposed to learn to "detach". [I]Detachment is the: * Ability to allow people, places or things the freedom to be themselves. * Holding back from the need to rescue, save or fix another person from being sick, dysfunctional or irrational. * Giving another person "the space" to be herself. * Disengaging from an over-enmeshed or dependent relationship with people. * Willingness to accept that you cannot change or control a person, place or thing....[/I] Read more: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/#ixzz3OFuj7RoF[/url] We HAVE to pay for the apartment if he doesn't. I've already SAID I'm not paying for Another. Single. Thing. Duh. I'm NOT in denial. I KNOW he is AT LEAST smoking pot or K2 or something. But HE doesn't admit a problem, WE can't force a drug test on him, and even if we could he's an ADULT. We can't force him into rehab and forcing any adult into rehab never did any good anyway. It doesn't matter if he's smoking crack - I CAN'T STOP IT. Really? What do you think I can do short of calling the police, IF I manage to actually catch him in the act of doing drugs? Please don't think I'm angry at you. I'm NOT. I'm just starting to get frustrated by "distance yourself, detach, he's an adult, let him go, radically accept" messages on one hand and the "OMG he's doing drugs you must act" messages on the other. [I]I can't do both![/I] And [I]please[/I], quit acting like I don't know synthetic pot can kill you. I've said it myself, over and over and over on these threads, that it's MUCH worse than the real thing and scary stuff. I don't need to be reminded or told. Please, if you have an actual suggestion of something I can DO, tell me - Please! Because short of watching him slowly go down the drain, I've got NOTHING here! [/QUOTE]
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