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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 394849" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, that's not the all of it. SHE diagnosed my daughter with ODD...lol. I can guarantee you, my daughter will speak her mind to teachers if she feels something is unfair OR if somebody picks on her friend. She was taught to do that. But she is not oppositional in any other area of life...not at home, not in the community, not in her many friend's homes. When I saw the diagnosis, I almost laughed, just like when Special Education teacher said, "There are about ten teachers who never want to talk to your mother again." This young lady doesn't understand that ODD/CD kids don't follow ANY rules. They break the law. They shoplift. They swear at adults and can not be made to listen. Jumper can. </p><p></p><p>Jumper got into trouble for scaring off some younger kids who were picking on her close friend's younger sister. This girl is overweight and everybody makes so much fun of her and the teachers either aren't doing anything about it or else Jumper, age age 14, doesn't feel they are doing anything about it. This child is tormented. Well, two teachers talked to Jumper about interfering in the harassment of this girl and Jumper stood up to them saying that she wouldn't have to do it if THEY stopped the harassment and that the girl has been harassed all her life and it wasn't going to happen in front of her. She pointed out that she didn't touch anybody...she just scared them off so that the child could be left alone. I guess she talked to the principal after the incident and he kind of seemed proud of her, but the two teachers who reprimmanded her, were angry that Jumper wouldn't back down and act sorry or promise not to do it again. One teacher said, "You know you CAN be intimidating." We'll deal with that too. My daugher is bi-racial and maybe this teacher thinks black kids are intimidating. My daughter has never been in a fight so she and I are not sure what they meant. Maybe I'm off-the-wall, but I was proud of Jumper too. Also, she talked back to a teacher who was staring at her when she told the class to be quiet. She said, "I wasn't talking." The teacher said, "Yes, you were." She said, "No, it wasn't me." The teacher told her to go to the office. She said, "No. I wasn't talking. I'll go in the hall, but not to the office." The teacher said, "How would you like me to call your mom?" She pulled out her cell phone. I admit this was a bit over-the-top, but I couldnt' help laughing. This teacher gets yanked around by the kids a lot and Jumper stands her ground when she feels she is right and if she would have called me, all I would have said is, "You know she has a strong sense of right and wrong. Give her a detention." The teacher did nothing but let her go out in the hall. Those are the two incidents that happened all year long that earned her ODD (rolling eyes). And they couldn't have been that bad as nobody DID give her a detention and we were never contacted. </p><p></p><p>As an aside: Jumper was taught very young to stick up for herself even to adults. Since she was sexually abused, well, it is often adults in positions of authority who abuse the kids and destroy their trust. She was never taught she had to be respectful to people who were older than her for that reason. She is really not disrespectful 99% of the time though. She's pretty easygoing unless she feels disrespected or, even worse, if somebody goes after one of her friends or family members.</p><p></p><p></p><p>No psychiatrist or psychologist has EVER even come close to considering Jumper ODD.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 394849, member: 1550"] Well, that's not the all of it. SHE diagnosed my daughter with ODD...lol. I can guarantee you, my daughter will speak her mind to teachers if she feels something is unfair OR if somebody picks on her friend. She was taught to do that. But she is not oppositional in any other area of life...not at home, not in the community, not in her many friend's homes. When I saw the diagnosis, I almost laughed, just like when Special Education teacher said, "There are about ten teachers who never want to talk to your mother again." This young lady doesn't understand that ODD/CD kids don't follow ANY rules. They break the law. They shoplift. They swear at adults and can not be made to listen. Jumper can. Jumper got into trouble for scaring off some younger kids who were picking on her close friend's younger sister. This girl is overweight and everybody makes so much fun of her and the teachers either aren't doing anything about it or else Jumper, age age 14, doesn't feel they are doing anything about it. This child is tormented. Well, two teachers talked to Jumper about interfering in the harassment of this girl and Jumper stood up to them saying that she wouldn't have to do it if THEY stopped the harassment and that the girl has been harassed all her life and it wasn't going to happen in front of her. She pointed out that she didn't touch anybody...she just scared them off so that the child could be left alone. I guess she talked to the principal after the incident and he kind of seemed proud of her, but the two teachers who reprimmanded her, were angry that Jumper wouldn't back down and act sorry or promise not to do it again. One teacher said, "You know you CAN be intimidating." We'll deal with that too. My daugher is bi-racial and maybe this teacher thinks black kids are intimidating. My daughter has never been in a fight so she and I are not sure what they meant. Maybe I'm off-the-wall, but I was proud of Jumper too. Also, she talked back to a teacher who was staring at her when she told the class to be quiet. She said, "I wasn't talking." The teacher said, "Yes, you were." She said, "No, it wasn't me." The teacher told her to go to the office. She said, "No. I wasn't talking. I'll go in the hall, but not to the office." The teacher said, "How would you like me to call your mom?" She pulled out her cell phone. I admit this was a bit over-the-top, but I couldnt' help laughing. This teacher gets yanked around by the kids a lot and Jumper stands her ground when she feels she is right and if she would have called me, all I would have said is, "You know she has a strong sense of right and wrong. Give her a detention." The teacher did nothing but let her go out in the hall. Those are the two incidents that happened all year long that earned her ODD (rolling eyes). And they couldn't have been that bad as nobody DID give her a detention and we were never contacted. As an aside: Jumper was taught very young to stick up for herself even to adults. Since she was sexually abused, well, it is often adults in positions of authority who abuse the kids and destroy their trust. She was never taught she had to be respectful to people who were older than her for that reason. She is really not disrespectful 99% of the time though. She's pretty easygoing unless she feels disrespected or, even worse, if somebody goes after one of her friends or family members. No psychiatrist or psychologist has EVER even come close to considering Jumper ODD. [/QUOTE]
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