Oh boy, if that isn't difficult child logic at its best! This is all your fault because you paid his rent for him and that put pressure on the poor boy not to fail.
I think that we all laughed about the television since that is also GFGness at its best. Worried about his arrest? Nope, he is worried about being able to watch television. Sheesh.
Jabber and Lil, I forgot a step in my previous post about the steps that we difficult child parents all seem to take. It was the one about difficult child gets in trouble with the law and we rush in to help get them out of trouble.
Yup, been there and done that. My difficult child had a DUI and we paid for the lawyer, fine, and DUI school. All difficult child had to do was do her community service which she managed to get out of because she was young and cute and the guy in charge of signing her papers went ahead and lied for her about the number of hours she had served.
difficult child was arrested again last year for having a 1mg xanax in a bottle of pills that was supposed to be 2mg pills. The police found it because they had been called to the house where difficult child lived and had gotten into a drunken fight.
To make a long story short, she knew we wouldn't bail her out this time so she didn't call us. She was released on her own recognizance and used a public defender. She was working full time and making $11 an hour at the time. I know she is in a different state but having a job in Florida didn't keep her from qualifying for a PD.
by the way, he did a good job and got her off. She was able to get a doctor to write a note stating that she also had a prescription at the time for the 1 mg xanax and had put it in the wrong bottle.
difficult child handled it completely by herself. We did look at the court records to see if she was telling the truth that it was dismissed and she was.
Bottom line . . . I completely get where you are coming from, Lil. However, it will be just one more time where you are rescuing your difficult child from facing the consequences of his actions. How will he learn from this if you do? Trust me, I am not judging you. I was the queen of rescuers. It just didn't fix anything and I now believe I was making things worse.
~Kathy
