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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 645420" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Well now I just love this! (aren't each and every one of out difficult child's terminally unique?)</p><p>Anyway, I thought you said that you had home projects and were thinking about moving. If there is one piece of advice I could give you is to keep those things at the top of your list and move forward. Son calls and you are busy? Let it go to voice mail. Text saying it is an emergency? Ignore until you get to it - if not truly life or death - saying for you here, "Your failure to plan does not constitute an emergency on my part". "I am so hungry mom, really I haven't eaten in three days" - well son go get yourself something to eat at the shelter. (Text, don't talk) Talk when you want and text when you don't want to or don't emotionally feel up to talking. Trust me you will have a whole lot more to reflect back on if you text more than you talk.</p><p></p><p>Go on with your projects like you would do as if you had a "normal" child off to collage. This, with him, is going to be your new normal.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you planning something that doesn't revolve around the difficult child, especially when you have been dealing with it so hard core is really gratifying. It feels good to get back to a life YOU have left to live. He isn't going to change, you know this now, so any day you want to you can just pick up where you left off with him, without all the stress and strain and when you are more refreshed and less drained. You, like I, are lucky in that we have good husbands that back us up. Enjoy him, and enjoy each other, let difficult child simmer on the back burner for a while.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 645420, member: 18366"] Well now I just love this! (aren't each and every one of out difficult child's terminally unique?) Anyway, I thought you said that you had home projects and were thinking about moving. If there is one piece of advice I could give you is to keep those things at the top of your list and move forward. Son calls and you are busy? Let it go to voice mail. Text saying it is an emergency? Ignore until you get to it - if not truly life or death - saying for you here, "Your failure to plan does not constitute an emergency on my part". "I am so hungry mom, really I haven't eaten in three days" - well son go get yourself something to eat at the shelter. (Text, don't talk) Talk when you want and text when you don't want to or don't emotionally feel up to talking. Trust me you will have a whole lot more to reflect back on if you text more than you talk. Go on with your projects like you would do as if you had a "normal" child off to collage. This, with him, is going to be your new normal. I can tell you planning something that doesn't revolve around the difficult child, especially when you have been dealing with it so hard core is really gratifying. It feels good to get back to a life YOU have left to live. He isn't going to change, you know this now, so any day you want to you can just pick up where you left off with him, without all the stress and strain and when you are more refreshed and less drained. You, like I, are lucky in that we have good husbands that back us up. Enjoy him, and enjoy each other, let difficult child simmer on the back burner for a while. [/QUOTE]
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