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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 645851" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lil, wow. Maybe I'm hardhearted, but you're way softer than I ever was. If I saw a police report, it would have been in my hand. If I didn't believe something, I'd say so and apologize later if proven wrong (my gut was always good). I had no tolerance for my kids lying to me and would have told my kid that there were cameras in Walmart that record everything. I also never got anyone to defend my kids because I figured if they didn't feel fear or see consequences they'd be more apt to do it again. Your son has already stolen from you. Now he's moving on to stealing from stores. There would not even be consideration of help from me because I always felt they'd never learn and they'd keep doing it if we stepped in. To be honest, at least in our case, the two kids who did illegal stuff stopped. 37 was always terrified of going to jail or the thought of it so the fact that if he kept breaking the law he AND his father would let him go it alone made him stop. My daughter was on parole twice before turning eighteen so she was pretty close to quitting her crazed life by eighteen and never did get a record. If she had continued and gotten a record, then that was on her. Mean, mean, mean, I guess.</p><p></p><p>It is easy to go from stealing DVDs and getting away with it to stealing bigger stuff because they get bolder and then there is nothing you can really do. And the older they get, the less pity I'm guessing the judges will take on the person.</p><p></p><p>Your son is lucky I am not his mother and either my ex or my current hubby are not his father(s). My ex has helped 37 out in regard to his son, but he'd never help him get out of breaking the law.</p><p></p><p>You're also nice to even consider driving him anywhere. I always felt exercise was good for my kids. They were young and could walk. I did not feel even they, or I, needed a car for a few miles. I still walk a lot. Good for my girlish figger <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> This can be construed as part of the weight watching thread now: Exercise for all is far better than riding everywhere. By far, Americans drive more than people in any other country and we are the most overweight.</p><p></p><p>Relax and forget about it now. Your son has done this to himself. You are giving and giving and I'll bet you never get a dime from him. If he doesn't change, you won't be able to save him forever. Eventually he'll be on his own. We can't live forever.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 645851, member: 1550"] Lil, wow. Maybe I'm hardhearted, but you're way softer than I ever was. If I saw a police report, it would have been in my hand. If I didn't believe something, I'd say so and apologize later if proven wrong (my gut was always good). I had no tolerance for my kids lying to me and would have told my kid that there were cameras in Walmart that record everything. I also never got anyone to defend my kids because I figured if they didn't feel fear or see consequences they'd be more apt to do it again. Your son has already stolen from you. Now he's moving on to stealing from stores. There would not even be consideration of help from me because I always felt they'd never learn and they'd keep doing it if we stepped in. To be honest, at least in our case, the two kids who did illegal stuff stopped. 37 was always terrified of going to jail or the thought of it so the fact that if he kept breaking the law he AND his father would let him go it alone made him stop. My daughter was on parole twice before turning eighteen so she was pretty close to quitting her crazed life by eighteen and never did get a record. If she had continued and gotten a record, then that was on her. Mean, mean, mean, I guess. It is easy to go from stealing DVDs and getting away with it to stealing bigger stuff because they get bolder and then there is nothing you can really do. And the older they get, the less pity I'm guessing the judges will take on the person. Your son is lucky I am not his mother and either my ex or my current hubby are not his father(s). My ex has helped 37 out in regard to his son, but he'd never help him get out of breaking the law. You're also nice to even consider driving him anywhere. I always felt exercise was good for my kids. They were young and could walk. I did not feel even they, or I, needed a car for a few miles. I still walk a lot. Good for my girlish figger ;) This can be construed as part of the weight watching thread now: Exercise for all is far better than riding everywhere. By far, Americans drive more than people in any other country and we are the most overweight. Relax and forget about it now. Your son has done this to himself. You are giving and giving and I'll bet you never get a dime from him. If he doesn't change, you won't be able to save him forever. Eventually he'll be on his own. We can't live forever. [/QUOTE]
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