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They don't get what they put us through....
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 687185" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>So I have been thinking about this a bit. In my conversation with my son yesterday I was getting upset.... And I said to him you have put me through H***....and he kind of laughed and said you have no idea what h*** is. And to some extent he is right... In that he has been both in jail and on the streets and I am sure those were awful for him.</p><p></p><p>But he really has no concept of what it is like to love a child who struggles like he does. The heartache it brings.</p><p></p><p>And then I get this threat that we will end up with no relationship. So he knows I want a relationship with him and so thinks he can push my buttons by threatening not to have one!! </p><p></p><p>So I was thinking about it today...... And the hardest thing about him cutting off contact would be not knowing if he was ok. If I knew he was alive and doing well I could live with no contact. It would sadden me of course but my main thing is I want him to be successful and happy. That is what is important to me.</p><p></p><p>He called me vindictive yesterday.... Which is so far from the truth. I just don't feel that way towards him at all. I am not saying I have never felt that way to anyone but I don't feel that way to him. I just don't.</p><p></p><p>I think it is really hard to understand the feelings a good parent has towards their kids until you are a parent.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 687185, member: 15801"] So I have been thinking about this a bit. In my conversation with my son yesterday I was getting upset.... And I said to him you have put me through H***....and he kind of laughed and said you have no idea what h*** is. And to some extent he is right... In that he has been both in jail and on the streets and I am sure those were awful for him. But he really has no concept of what it is like to love a child who struggles like he does. The heartache it brings. And then I get this threat that we will end up with no relationship. So he knows I want a relationship with him and so thinks he can push my buttons by threatening not to have one!! So I was thinking about it today...... And the hardest thing about him cutting off contact would be not knowing if he was ok. If I knew he was alive and doing well I could live with no contact. It would sadden me of course but my main thing is I want him to be successful and happy. That is what is important to me. He called me vindictive yesterday.... Which is so far from the truth. I just don't feel that way towards him at all. I am not saying I have never felt that way to anyone but I don't feel that way to him. I just don't. I think it is really hard to understand the feelings a good parent has towards their kids until you are a parent. TL [/QUOTE]
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