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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 729731" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>For me, I would be very leery of the New York thing. If he truly wants to get sober he can do it in Chicago. He says he has furniture in storage that he can sell. Who's paying the storage fees?</p><p>I understand his heart is set on New York but I would want to know more about why. What is his true motivation? </p><p>I went through something very similar with my son. He hated Denver, said that he could no longer live there, it wasn't good for him and if he could start over somewhere else it would all be different. He has started over in more than a few cities and the end result is always the same. For my son, he has not truly addressed or dealt with his addictions to alcohol and drugs. </p><p>A change of location is not going to make the issue go away.</p><p>I do hope your son is sincere about wanting to get sober. I just want to make sure you are going into this with your eyes wide open. You say you will pay for a one way ticket for him to get there which is very generous of you. Be prepared for what might be on the other side of this if things to do not go well. What will your plan be if he calls and says it's not working out, he needs money, he's has no where to go?</p><p>Again, I do hope this all works out for the best but as I have journeyed this road for many years I have learned to be very cautious and to have a very clear set of boundaries in place, what I will and will not do for my son.</p><p>I'm wishing you and your son all the best and do hope that he will take getting sober very seriously.</p><p>Please let us know how things go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 729731, member: 18516"] For me, I would be very leery of the New York thing. If he truly wants to get sober he can do it in Chicago. He says he has furniture in storage that he can sell. Who's paying the storage fees? I understand his heart is set on New York but I would want to know more about why. What is his true motivation? I went through something very similar with my son. He hated Denver, said that he could no longer live there, it wasn't good for him and if he could start over somewhere else it would all be different. He has started over in more than a few cities and the end result is always the same. For my son, he has not truly addressed or dealt with his addictions to alcohol and drugs. A change of location is not going to make the issue go away. I do hope your son is sincere about wanting to get sober. I just want to make sure you are going into this with your eyes wide open. You say you will pay for a one way ticket for him to get there which is very generous of you. Be prepared for what might be on the other side of this if things to do not go well. What will your plan be if he calls and says it's not working out, he needs money, he's has no where to go? Again, I do hope this all works out for the best but as I have journeyed this road for many years I have learned to be very cautious and to have a very clear set of boundaries in place, what I will and will not do for my son. I'm wishing you and your son all the best and do hope that he will take getting sober very seriously. Please let us know how things go. [/QUOTE]
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