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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 637311" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Actually, I'm shocked at similar our difficult children seem to be. I can only go by my own and the ones I have read about on thie site. A few deviate, but I think most could be kissing cousins.</p><p></p><p>1/They almost all are entitled.</p><p>2/ They almost all blame others for their problems that they create</p><p>3/ They do not respond to normal discipline in a typical way...rather they rage, scream, abuse or even get violent.</p><p>4/ They want a lot of money with no effort and get testy when we won't give it up.</p><p>5/ They tend to fail to launch and want to live with us, BUT they also want us to treat them like contributing adults when they are not contributing and do not act like adults</p><p>6/ Very few difficult children on this site, at least, like to work, work hard, work at all, like their jobs, etc. Unlike most older teenagers who strive for independence, they want to stay dependent on us for money and toys, but also want the perks of being over eighteen, such as no curfew, no asking questions, doing whatever they feel like it, etc. etc. etc.</p><p>7/If parents, and many are parents without being married or in a committed relationship, they are not responsible, good parents.</p><p>8/If we no longer throw money at them, they try hard to find another money source rather than a job.</p><p>9/They only call when they want something from us. Our actual welfare is not on their radar.</p><p>10/Only a very few do not or have not abused substances.</p><p></p><p>Sure, all people have their own personalities, but I think there is a definite string of behaviors most seem to share which guarantee failure and make them need to live in our house, taking our money, in order to avoid being homeless.</p><p></p><p>Here are a few honorary mentions in my list of similarities:</p><p></p><p>1/They have no problem stealing or they steal even if they have a problem with it.</p><p>2/They have visited the Men in Blue up close and personal sometimes because WE had to call them when they were acting violent. If not, they are lucky or have come close or will meet them if they don't change. Then they want us to pay for expensive lawyers to get them out of the trouble that they purposefully caused, often while high.</p><p>3/They lie as easily as they breathe (this is on the honorary list because I think we have a few who are not chronic liars, but not too many).</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, that's my take on it. Just my worthless .02 <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 637311, member: 1550"] Actually, I'm shocked at similar our difficult children seem to be. I can only go by my own and the ones I have read about on thie site. A few deviate, but I think most could be kissing cousins. 1/They almost all are entitled. 2/ They almost all blame others for their problems that they create 3/ They do not respond to normal discipline in a typical way...rather they rage, scream, abuse or even get violent. 4/ They want a lot of money with no effort and get testy when we won't give it up. 5/ They tend to fail to launch and want to live with us, BUT they also want us to treat them like contributing adults when they are not contributing and do not act like adults 6/ Very few difficult children on this site, at least, like to work, work hard, work at all, like their jobs, etc. Unlike most older teenagers who strive for independence, they want to stay dependent on us for money and toys, but also want the perks of being over eighteen, such as no curfew, no asking questions, doing whatever they feel like it, etc. etc. etc. 7/If parents, and many are parents without being married or in a committed relationship, they are not responsible, good parents. 8/If we no longer throw money at them, they try hard to find another money source rather than a job. 9/They only call when they want something from us. Our actual welfare is not on their radar. 10/Only a very few do not or have not abused substances. Sure, all people have their own personalities, but I think there is a definite string of behaviors most seem to share which guarantee failure and make them need to live in our house, taking our money, in order to avoid being homeless. Here are a few honorary mentions in my list of similarities: 1/They have no problem stealing or they steal even if they have a problem with it. 2/They have visited the Men in Blue up close and personal sometimes because WE had to call them when they were acting violent. If not, they are lucky or have come close or will meet them if they don't change. Then they want us to pay for expensive lawyers to get them out of the trouble that they purposefully caused, often while high. 3/They lie as easily as they breathe (this is on the honorary list because I think we have a few who are not chronic liars, but not too many). Anyhow, that's my take on it. Just my worthless .02 ;) [/QUOTE]
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