<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: hearthope</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
I have my full armour on, I am expecting nothing, but if he has to leave again I believe I will be able to sleep at night knowing I did do all I could do.
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Hearthope, you did great. When the kids are determined to follow these kinds of self destructive paths, knowing we have done all we could to stop them IS success.
The rest is up to your son.
It doesn't matter whether you have him home a thousand times, hearthope. What matters is that you recognize when being home again is working to help him find his way ~ and that you can see clearly too when living at home again is not helping him to do that.
That is part of why this is so hard. We can steel ourselves never to have anything more to do with them ~ but when they are there in front of us and they need help, we help them.
And that is a good thing.
We just have to be as clear with ourselves as we can be about whether what we are doing is helping the child, or making it easier for him to self destruct.
I am glad you told him about having been raised better than to do what he is doing.
I think that really does help them to find their way back.
Wishing you and your family well, hearthope.
Barbara
