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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 526540" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>You have absolutely done the right thing, and need to stand your ground. As you say, your 15 yo is watching, but your 15 yo is also behaving. He's got 3 more years of high school - I assume - and needs some solid ground to make important decisions about his future. You have done your best with your eldest, and he has made his choices. He can still turn it around, but so long as he thinks that you and husband will give him a place to sleep and food to eat, why should he?</p><p></p><p>Think of when he was learning to walk. He tried, he fell, he tried again and eventually you let go and eventually he was walking and running. Now it's time to let him figure out where to sleep and what to eat. If he's anything like most of our kids, some poor sap will give him a sofa to sleep on for a while, and get tired of his nonsense. Then - probably for the first time in his life - someone other than you and your husband will tell him that he needs to man up and get a job or go hungry. Count on it that he will be back at your door crying, but if you let him back because someone else wouldn't put up with him, you'll be back at square one.</p><p></p><p>Be strong and know that you're not the first. You're letting go of his hand, and letting him be a man. As Chris Rock says, "Get that grown man off your couch!" <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 526540, member: 99"] You have absolutely done the right thing, and need to stand your ground. As you say, your 15 yo is watching, but your 15 yo is also behaving. He's got 3 more years of high school - I assume - and needs some solid ground to make important decisions about his future. You have done your best with your eldest, and he has made his choices. He can still turn it around, but so long as he thinks that you and husband will give him a place to sleep and food to eat, why should he? Think of when he was learning to walk. He tried, he fell, he tried again and eventually you let go and eventually he was walking and running. Now it's time to let him figure out where to sleep and what to eat. If he's anything like most of our kids, some poor sap will give him a sofa to sleep on for a while, and get tired of his nonsense. Then - probably for the first time in his life - someone other than you and your husband will tell him that he needs to man up and get a job or go hungry. Count on it that he will be back at your door crying, but if you let him back because someone else wouldn't put up with him, you'll be back at square one. Be strong and know that you're not the first. You're letting go of his hand, and letting him be a man. As Chris Rock says, "Get that grown man off your couch!" ;) [/QUOTE]
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