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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 758003" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Trying, oh I so get this. I counted down to when my son was no longer on is fathers health care plan, dreading it so much. And so now he's not. No health care as far as I know. I tried to encourage him to get on disability, which I knew he would qualify for considering his history, in between him calling me the C word in all of those conversations the last year or so. We, but our adult children don't look for those safety nets, FMLA, insurance in general, the ones we would naturally look for for grounding. I'm starting to believe the safety nets we always consider so important maybe are not as important as we believe they are, as long as we are not thinking we need to provide for them when our adult children fail to provide for themselves. What's the worse that can happen? And will it happen? I spent a huge amount of money trying to "launch" my son with a program in Utah, and then lots of copays and costs for rehabs back east here after he ran away. And half way houses and not so half way houses and such through the years. Plenty enough for me to outright own a nice place down in Florida for the winter months. One thing, but not the most important thing, I have discovered after those crazy days is there are other resources for him, if and when he is ready to take charge of his life and advantage of them. There are organizations, recovery and mental health organizations available to support emotionally and financially for those who are ready to take the reigns to change their lives. For people who are unemployed and employed, in patient, out patient. But the main thing, the most important thing, is for people who are ready to take responsibility "the reins" for themselves, which frankly are really the only type of people who will make progress.</p><p></p><p>I think your son will make it, I do. I think he has been making it, maybe not up to what you know his intellectual and emotional abilities are but with what his challenges are he's done good. And yeah, I expect his life will continue with less of a safety net than you or I would consider reasonable but maybe just okay for him.</p><p></p><p>I hope your depression lifts for you, and as far as posting, in my case and I'm pretty sure for most others here, who read often, even if we don't respond, your posts are heard and you don't annoy us in the least bit.</p><p>Love and peace to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 758003, member: 22840"] Trying, oh I so get this. I counted down to when my son was no longer on is fathers health care plan, dreading it so much. And so now he's not. No health care as far as I know. I tried to encourage him to get on disability, which I knew he would qualify for considering his history, in between him calling me the C word in all of those conversations the last year or so. We, but our adult children don't look for those safety nets, FMLA, insurance in general, the ones we would naturally look for for grounding. I'm starting to believe the safety nets we always consider so important maybe are not as important as we believe they are, as long as we are not thinking we need to provide for them when our adult children fail to provide for themselves. What's the worse that can happen? And will it happen? I spent a huge amount of money trying to "launch" my son with a program in Utah, and then lots of copays and costs for rehabs back east here after he ran away. And half way houses and not so half way houses and such through the years. Plenty enough for me to outright own a nice place down in Florida for the winter months. One thing, but not the most important thing, I have discovered after those crazy days is there are other resources for him, if and when he is ready to take charge of his life and advantage of them. There are organizations, recovery and mental health organizations available to support emotionally and financially for those who are ready to take the reigns to change their lives. For people who are unemployed and employed, in patient, out patient. But the main thing, the most important thing, is for people who are ready to take responsibility "the reins" for themselves, which frankly are really the only type of people who will make progress. I think your son will make it, I do. I think he has been making it, maybe not up to what you know his intellectual and emotional abilities are but with what his challenges are he's done good. And yeah, I expect his life will continue with less of a safety net than you or I would consider reasonable but maybe just okay for him. I hope your depression lifts for you, and as far as posting, in my case and I'm pretty sure for most others here, who read often, even if we don't respond, your posts are heard and you don't annoy us in the least bit. Love and peace to you. [/QUOTE]
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