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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 760923" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Oh hon. We are way too soft and did nothing for ten years. She was the one we catered to, spent money on and worried about. We had no time for anyone else. She would steal all the oxygen out of the room. We have two other kids who got little attention because they always did well. Is that fair?</p><p></p><p>For our daughter, because we didn't want her in our house but didn't want her homeless, we first bought her a house but she lost it, then tried a mobile home and she and her worthless husband got thrown off the lot for fighting and drugs and then we paid rent and they also got thrown out. My husband and I were near divorce. We seperated. Then desperate I joined NarAnon and marital therapy. </p><p></p><p>That's when I confronted my codependency honestly and we cut her off. Completely. She was furious and disowned us but the rest of the family recovered and we apologized to our other kids. Kay also had a child and gave him to her sister. My grandson! </p><p></p><p> Now she is living in a motorhome (old one) half way across the country on Disability and other government programs.</p><p></p><p>Not all stories end like Kay. I would read a lot and go to FB groups too. Therapy was great for us. Most of all, we all tend to neglect ourselves and some of us forget that our troubled kids are adults. They have no right to terrorize us. It's horrible of them. We don't have to allow it. They only treat us as badly as we let them. It's our call.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 760923, member: 23706"] Oh hon. We are way too soft and did nothing for ten years. She was the one we catered to, spent money on and worried about. We had no time for anyone else. She would steal all the oxygen out of the room. We have two other kids who got little attention because they always did well. Is that fair? For our daughter, because we didn't want her in our house but didn't want her homeless, we first bought her a house but she lost it, then tried a mobile home and she and her worthless husband got thrown off the lot for fighting and drugs and then we paid rent and they also got thrown out. My husband and I were near divorce. We seperated. Then desperate I joined NarAnon and marital therapy. That's when I confronted my codependency honestly and we cut her off. Completely. She was furious and disowned us but the rest of the family recovered and we apologized to our other kids. Kay also had a child and gave him to her sister. My grandson! Now she is living in a motorhome (old one) half way across the country on Disability and other government programs. Not all stories end like Kay. I would read a lot and go to FB groups too. Therapy was great for us. Most of all, we all tend to neglect ourselves and some of us forget that our troubled kids are adults. They have no right to terrorize us. It's horrible of them. We don't have to allow it. They only treat us as badly as we let them. It's our call. Keep us posted!!! [/QUOTE]
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