Hi Beta. I remember you too. I would have responded sooner but I was off the site 6 months or so because I was locked out.
My son J is 34. He is homeless in California. My son's mental health issues emerged about 12 years or so. It may be bipolar, too. He self medicates.
I hope you soon find respite from your suffering. That is what needs to happen now. I pray that your son finds his way to get help. I pray the same for my own son.