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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 402531" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Oh, hon... HUGS, first of all. For you, AND for Knight.</p><p> </p><p>He's old enough for the responsibility of homework and natural consequences. I would say this to him: I'm not reminding you about your project again. If you don't have it done, then you will be the one who has an F.</p><p> </p><p>Forget the father ever helping with homework. He sounds just exactly like my kids' BM. She said the SAME THING about homework. It was OUR JOB. Since Daddy doesn't want to be involved, you just have to deal with that - and so does Knight.</p><p> </p><p>I'm pretty sure Knight "gets" that Daddy has no interest. Especially if he's in a gifted program. What he doesn't get is WHY. ..."Doesn't he love me?"... And it doesn't matter how awful he is, he IS Knight's father, and Knight will always love him.</p><p> </p><p>Onyxx has some of the same situation... She loves and hates BM at the same time (in her words) and refuses to visit her because she feels betrayed. We talked about this, and I stated that I would bet if she KNEW BM would love her, she would do just about anything. And she said I'd win that bet.</p><p> </p><p>BM still pulls this kind of thing with Jett all the time.</p><p> </p><p>Seriously - let it go. Remind him one more time and tell him what the consequence will be... And let it go.</p><p> </p><p>One more thing - more hugs. It's hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 402531, member: 6705"] Oh, hon... HUGS, first of all. For you, AND for Knight. He's old enough for the responsibility of homework and natural consequences. I would say this to him: I'm not reminding you about your project again. If you don't have it done, then you will be the one who has an F. Forget the father ever helping with homework. He sounds just exactly like my kids' BM. She said the SAME THING about homework. It was OUR JOB. Since Daddy doesn't want to be involved, you just have to deal with that - and so does Knight. I'm pretty sure Knight "gets" that Daddy has no interest. Especially if he's in a gifted program. What he doesn't get is WHY. ..."Doesn't he love me?"... And it doesn't matter how awful he is, he IS Knight's father, and Knight will always love him. Onyxx has some of the same situation... She loves and hates BM at the same time (in her words) and refuses to visit her because she feels betrayed. We talked about this, and I stated that I would bet if she KNEW BM would love her, she would do just about anything. And she said I'd win that bet. BM still pulls this kind of thing with Jett all the time. Seriously - let it go. Remind him one more time and tell him what the consequence will be... And let it go. One more thing - more hugs. It's hard. [/QUOTE]
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