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Tired of being in fetal position....new mission for me
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 748235" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>You bet!</p><p></p><p>It takes not being able to take the pain to do the heavy work on ourselves. I wonder if thats exactly how it is for our kids. And here WE are 50 and 60!</p><p></p><p>I think Kay is mentally ill as well as obviously addicted to pot, which is not as minor a thing as I once thought it was. She is adopted from another country and I wish I knew more of her background. There was almost nothing. She is currently trying to find her birthmother. I wish she would because I think some adootees absolutely need to have answers and I think Kay is one. But her birth country, which I would rather not name, does not have detailed records. So she has this going on too.</p><p></p><p>Kay has been a mess since very young but she was a sweet mess. She is now a horrible, angry, bitter mess and I don't want to lose her whether or not she is a mess. But I may have to. Her tirades have made my illness worse and my husband's diabetes and blood pressure are high.</p><p></p><p>I won't let her kill us. Not even our kids should have the power of a bullet.</p><p></p><p>We are going to write her out of our will if she doesn't stop this. If so, she will kill us with no gain. She thinks we are rich! After all, we spent so much on her, she probably does think we have a secret fortune somewhere. Cars, a small house, a mobile home after the house, rent after the house and mobile home...fools, we were. Trying to make her happy. She destroyed all of it.</p><p></p><p>The truth is, because of what we chose to do for her and Lee we don't have much left. So if she kills us she will be surprised to find out that nobody got rich.</p><p></p><p>I sometimes wonder if adopted kids dont have the same bond as biological kids do. My other two kids would never threaten to leave me no matter how angry they were. We work things out.</p><p></p><p>I would not adopt again. I have friends I met through doing this adoption and it seems like none of those kids are content. And we all got them as infants. I'm sure some adopted kids do great, but I haven't seen that in my life. </p><p></p><p>Time to go back to my mission and be a stronger person. Join me!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 748235, member: 23706"] You bet! It takes not being able to take the pain to do the heavy work on ourselves. I wonder if thats exactly how it is for our kids. And here WE are 50 and 60! I think Kay is mentally ill as well as obviously addicted to pot, which is not as minor a thing as I once thought it was. She is adopted from another country and I wish I knew more of her background. There was almost nothing. She is currently trying to find her birthmother. I wish she would because I think some adootees absolutely need to have answers and I think Kay is one. But her birth country, which I would rather not name, does not have detailed records. So she has this going on too. Kay has been a mess since very young but she was a sweet mess. She is now a horrible, angry, bitter mess and I don't want to lose her whether or not she is a mess. But I may have to. Her tirades have made my illness worse and my husband's diabetes and blood pressure are high. I won't let her kill us. Not even our kids should have the power of a bullet. We are going to write her out of our will if she doesn't stop this. If so, she will kill us with no gain. She thinks we are rich! After all, we spent so much on her, she probably does think we have a secret fortune somewhere. Cars, a small house, a mobile home after the house, rent after the house and mobile home...fools, we were. Trying to make her happy. She destroyed all of it. The truth is, because of what we chose to do for her and Lee we don't have much left. So if she kills us she will be surprised to find out that nobody got rich. I sometimes wonder if adopted kids dont have the same bond as biological kids do. My other two kids would never threaten to leave me no matter how angry they were. We work things out. I would not adopt again. I have friends I met through doing this adoption and it seems like none of those kids are content. And we all got them as infants. I'm sure some adopted kids do great, but I haven't seen that in my life. Time to go back to my mission and be a stronger person. Join me! [/QUOTE]
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