Stands, I don't get it. You say you don't have the money to pay his bail but still worry about whether you should. You get the same advice over and over and still ask the same questions. You know he needs to do these things for himself and yet you want to do them for him.
He's an adult with an addiction. He's not a little boy with a hurt knee. He's not going to quit because you want him to or even because the court orders him to. He's got to want to quit. You have proof positive that he doesn't want to quit or he wouldn't be asking for the Xanax. Even in jail he's trying to get his drugs. What is this saying to you? Shouldn't it be screaming he's in the safest place he can be? Even a rehab center isn't going to help right now. He wants his drugs. He'll say and do anything to get them. He hasn't changed. Don't you think it's time you did?
Quit worrying about what you think you should do for him. Start doing things for you, your husband, your son at home.
