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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 645560" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>So true Cedar, if I couldn't laugh I suppose all I would do is mope and cry. Laughter is magical for me, it helps to color my world against the shades of darkness.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> I work with a group of women who are always talking about their kids and how wonderful they are and I just sit and listen. There was a time when that would bother me but not anymore, I'm happy for them. I mourn the loss of the son I had hoped for just as I mourn the loss of my parents but I cannot dwell on that loss or I will stay stuck in a dark place that is not good for me.</p><p> </p><p>I am a 20 year cancer survivor and going through that taught me so much about living in the here and now. It made it very real for me that we all have expiration dates. While none of us know how many, we only have a set number of days on this earthly plane and we each have a choice how we will spend that time. Don't get me wrong, I still have "days" where I will have a little pitty party, sometimes with ice cream, but it is short lived as I remind myself that nothing positive comes from wallowing in it.</p><p> </p><p>I will always love my difficult child, he has his life to live and I have mine. I did my very best for him and then some; he doesn't see it this way and that's ok because his opinion of me no longer matters.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 645560, member: 18516"] So true Cedar, if I couldn't laugh I suppose all I would do is mope and cry. Laughter is magical for me, it helps to color my world against the shades of darkness. I work with a group of women who are always talking about their kids and how wonderful they are and I just sit and listen. There was a time when that would bother me but not anymore, I'm happy for them. I mourn the loss of the son I had hoped for just as I mourn the loss of my parents but I cannot dwell on that loss or I will stay stuck in a dark place that is not good for me. I am a 20 year cancer survivor and going through that taught me so much about living in the here and now. It made it very real for me that we all have expiration dates. While none of us know how many, we only have a set number of days on this earthly plane and we each have a choice how we will spend that time. Don't get me wrong, I still have "days" where I will have a little pitty party, sometimes with ice cream, but it is short lived as I remind myself that nothing positive comes from wallowing in it. I will always love my difficult child, he has his life to live and I have mine. I did my very best for him and then some; he doesn't see it this way and that's ok because his opinion of me no longer matters. [/QUOTE]
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