Thanks Witz and DDD. Your kind words remind me to be happy for the thing we've been able to create for difficult child, when I get too wrapped up in the daily grind of bad behaviour and other minor miseries.
I'm grateful for running into lawyers, judges and court services people that have direct experience with autism/aspergers and knew what my boy was facing. And, I'm grateful that my training and the work I do, although in a completely different field, are also applicable to this.
During this whole journey, I have met or heard about so many other families with children like difficult child who just don't fit anywhere in the system. Now that husband and I have laid all this groundwork for our boy, it doesn't seem fair to keep it to ourselves. So...we're on to the next phase...