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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 754786" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Overwhelmed, I am so sorry that you are dealing with these issues with your grown children and sad thoughts. I have read on this forum many times, that it does no good to ask “why.” You could spend eternity asking that question and never get an answer that satisfies you, and it will leave you open to possibly blaming yourself.</p><p></p><p>This is so much easier said than done, but you have got to start doing things that make YOU feel good. I find that when I am not feeling sufficiently loved by certain family members that it helps to find ways where I can be appreciated or loved in other ways. There are many people lonely and hurting in this world, who are not our children and would be so grateful for a visit, or a comforting word from someone. </p><p></p><p>There are little children in schools all around who need someone to read to them, help them with homework or just need a mentor. I enjoy children, so that idea appeals to me. There are so many needs out there in all realms of society and unfortunately, not enough good people to cover them.</p><p></p><p>You are obviously a very caring person. Please reach out to someone who needs you and will appreciate that kindness and caring. You know your children don’t right now—that is their loss. Accept it for now.</p><p></p><p>If volunteering is not something you would enjoy, then please find other ways to care for yourself. Thinking will not do it. Doing something positive for yourself or someone else might help.</p><p></p><p>And keep coming here, posting and reading. It is a great help! And like many more who may come later, I send a warm hug and love.</p><p></p><p>Nan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 754786, member: 23742"] Overwhelmed, I am so sorry that you are dealing with these issues with your grown children and sad thoughts. I have read on this forum many times, that it does no good to ask “why.” You could spend eternity asking that question and never get an answer that satisfies you, and it will leave you open to possibly blaming yourself. This is so much easier said than done, but you have got to start doing things that make YOU feel good. I find that when I am not feeling sufficiently loved by certain family members that it helps to find ways where I can be appreciated or loved in other ways. There are many people lonely and hurting in this world, who are not our children and would be so grateful for a visit, or a comforting word from someone. There are little children in schools all around who need someone to read to them, help them with homework or just need a mentor. I enjoy children, so that idea appeals to me. There are so many needs out there in all realms of society and unfortunately, not enough good people to cover them. You are obviously a very caring person. Please reach out to someone who needs you and will appreciate that kindness and caring. You know your children don’t right now—that is their loss. Accept it for now. If volunteering is not something you would enjoy, then please find other ways to care for yourself. Thinking will not do it. Doing something positive for yourself or someone else might help. And keep coming here, posting and reading. It is a great help! And like many more who may come later, I send a warm hug and love. Nan [/QUOTE]
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