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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 711889" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If he was in his dads face screaming, cussing etc. It is not safe for him to live with you. Our adult kids are amazingly resourceful. He will find people to take him in for stints (he will probably blow it, but he will find others), there are shelters and food pantries all over and he can apply for benefits or maybe even get a job. There are free and cheap rehabs if he wants to quit.</p><p></p><p>Dont feel torn. You made the only sane choice.</p><p></p><p>You did not force him to leave. If he acted decently, got help, looked for work, was polite he could stay. He chose to disregard civil and sane rules. He chose not to follow simple rules. His choice.</p><p></p><p>Your house should be your sanctuary. SON is verbally violent and threatening. I made my son leave when he did that. He lived in cheap motels until his father, my ex, let him move in. That way he didnt live with my youngest daughter who was scared of him. Or me. Ex had a hard time too.</p><p></p><p>Things dont always go as smooth as we eould like but we in my opinion should take care of ourselves and protect ourselves. You can do nothing more for your son if he refuses to get help. it is time to take care of yourself now. Your son has to walk his own path. His discomfort may fuel him to get help. He was not improving under your roof.</p><p></p><p>Light and love! Keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 711889, member: 1550"] If he was in his dads face screaming, cussing etc. It is not safe for him to live with you. Our adult kids are amazingly resourceful. He will find people to take him in for stints (he will probably blow it, but he will find others), there are shelters and food pantries all over and he can apply for benefits or maybe even get a job. There are free and cheap rehabs if he wants to quit. Dont feel torn. You made the only sane choice. You did not force him to leave. If he acted decently, got help, looked for work, was polite he could stay. He chose to disregard civil and sane rules. He chose not to follow simple rules. His choice. Your house should be your sanctuary. SON is verbally violent and threatening. I made my son leave when he did that. He lived in cheap motels until his father, my ex, let him move in. That way he didnt live with my youngest daughter who was scared of him. Or me. Ex had a hard time too. Things dont always go as smooth as we eould like but we in my opinion should take care of ourselves and protect ourselves. You can do nothing more for your son if he refuses to get help. it is time to take care of yourself now. Your son has to walk his own path. His discomfort may fuel him to get help. He was not improving under your roof. Light and love! Keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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