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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 610776" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Since this is your first post, it would help you out if you started a separate thread. What you did was add onto the end of a very old and long thread and many people may not look at it here. From what I read, it sounds like perhaps your niece had a VERY chaotic early life, probably started in infancy, and has , due to that, failed to develop boundaries, empathy or any interest in following societies rules...it's called attachment disorder. Attachment disorder is a spectrum, but basically it means the child is incapable of attaching to other people and is in self-preservation mode all the time, thus only cares about himself/herself. These are VERY challenging kids to raise and VERY hard to get help for because it requires long term and very specific therapy. More than this may be going on and it may not be this at all, but sounds like for some reason this child has no caring of others at all.</p><p></p><p>Crazy lying is a symptom (they lie even when caught in the act). Being intrigued with fire is a symptom. Cruelty to animals is another. Violence is another. Peeing and pooping inappropriately is another. Drug and alcohol abuse is common. Basically, attachment problems is similar to antisocial personality disorder in adults. They are very engaging and charming to other people then they terrorize those who are close to them, but nobody believes it. Sometimes they make false abuse allegations and their caregivers get into serious trouble.</p><p></p><p>Did this child's birthmother drink alcohol and/or do drugs while she was pregnant? THAT can cause brain damage along with the other stuff.</p><p></p><p>Sadly, in some states you can not relinquish a child you have guardianship over, although some parents do anyway and risk jail. The best advice I can give you is to try to get her involved in the justice system and hopefully they will send her off to a residential treatment center where she can be watched 24/7. If you have other kids, especially younger ones, and have pets this is almost imperative...to get her out of the house. I believe you when you say she is dangerous. We adopted a very dangerous eleven year old who acted like a little angel to outsiders and even to us, but he killed a few animals and sexually abused our two younger kids. Our two younger kids were so scared of him that they didn't tell us. That was even though we had always told our children to never be afraid to tell us if anyone touched them in the wrong places or the wrong way. They were too afraid of him as he threatened to kill us all if they said a word.</p><p></p><p>I am not trying to say that this niece is as horrible as this eleven year old was, but you never know what they have done to younger kids until the threat (the child) is out of the house. Took us months of therapy because our younger kids were able to tell us the full extent of what he did to both animals and to them and other kids. If your niece harms anyone in your family, CALL THE COPS!!! If she picks up a knife and threatens you, CALL THE COPS. If she steals from you, report her. Next time she runs away, CALL THE COPS! You protect nobody, not even her, if you don't get her help and your family relief from her behavior.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you had to come here, but glad you found us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 610776, member: 1550"] Since this is your first post, it would help you out if you started a separate thread. What you did was add onto the end of a very old and long thread and many people may not look at it here. From what I read, it sounds like perhaps your niece had a VERY chaotic early life, probably started in infancy, and has , due to that, failed to develop boundaries, empathy or any interest in following societies rules...it's called attachment disorder. Attachment disorder is a spectrum, but basically it means the child is incapable of attaching to other people and is in self-preservation mode all the time, thus only cares about himself/herself. These are VERY challenging kids to raise and VERY hard to get help for because it requires long term and very specific therapy. More than this may be going on and it may not be this at all, but sounds like for some reason this child has no caring of others at all. Crazy lying is a symptom (they lie even when caught in the act). Being intrigued with fire is a symptom. Cruelty to animals is another. Violence is another. Peeing and pooping inappropriately is another. Drug and alcohol abuse is common. Basically, attachment problems is similar to antisocial personality disorder in adults. They are very engaging and charming to other people then they terrorize those who are close to them, but nobody believes it. Sometimes they make false abuse allegations and their caregivers get into serious trouble. Did this child's birthmother drink alcohol and/or do drugs while she was pregnant? THAT can cause brain damage along with the other stuff. Sadly, in some states you can not relinquish a child you have guardianship over, although some parents do anyway and risk jail. The best advice I can give you is to try to get her involved in the justice system and hopefully they will send her off to a residential treatment center where she can be watched 24/7. If you have other kids, especially younger ones, and have pets this is almost imperative...to get her out of the house. I believe you when you say she is dangerous. We adopted a very dangerous eleven year old who acted like a little angel to outsiders and even to us, but he killed a few animals and sexually abused our two younger kids. Our two younger kids were so scared of him that they didn't tell us. That was even though we had always told our children to never be afraid to tell us if anyone touched them in the wrong places or the wrong way. They were too afraid of him as he threatened to kill us all if they said a word. I am not trying to say that this niece is as horrible as this eleven year old was, but you never know what they have done to younger kids until the threat (the child) is out of the house. Took us months of therapy because our younger kids were able to tell us the full extent of what he did to both animals and to them and other kids. If your niece harms anyone in your family, CALL THE COPS!!! If she picks up a knife and threatens you, CALL THE COPS. If she steals from you, report her. Next time she runs away, CALL THE COPS! You protect nobody, not even her, if you don't get her help and your family relief from her behavior. I am so sorry you had to come here, but glad you found us. [/QUOTE]
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