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Ugh... I hate having to say no
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 749236" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>This should have said close with him, not struggling. They used him for his kindness and we ended up being at odds over this. He couldn’t let go. I had had enough.</p><p></p><p> Try not to blame yourself my dear. It was and is still your daughters choice to behave as she does. We just don’t see it until it becomes a train wreck and we are in deep. The point is to learn and move on. Forgive yourself because what mother doesn’t want the best for their child at any age? The difference is, when we want it more than they do, it becomes a challenge for us to accept their choices.</p><p></p><p> I don’t know why these kids grow up and feel this way. It is like mine reject conventional living, but they don’t mind living off of another’s hard work.</p><p></p><p> You deserve way better and she needs to know this. You matter, LettingGo, the rest of your life matters. I have come to believe that by our standing up for ourselves and modeling self care, we are doing the most we can for our wayward adult children, leading by example. It is what we wish most for them, that they would expect better for their lives.</p><p></p><p>Me too, LG I must do the same.</p><p>Hang in there. You have been through the wringer. Take very good care of yourself.</p><p>Hugs</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 749236, member: 19522"] This should have said close with him, not struggling. They used him for his kindness and we ended up being at odds over this. He couldn’t let go. I had had enough. Try not to blame yourself my dear. It was and is still your daughters choice to behave as she does. We just don’t see it until it becomes a train wreck and we are in deep. The point is to learn and move on. Forgive yourself because what mother doesn’t want the best for their child at any age? The difference is, when we want it more than they do, it becomes a challenge for us to accept their choices. I don’t know why these kids grow up and feel this way. It is like mine reject conventional living, but they don’t mind living off of another’s hard work. You deserve way better and she needs to know this. You matter, LettingGo, the rest of your life matters. I have come to believe that by our standing up for ourselves and modeling self care, we are doing the most we can for our wayward adult children, leading by example. It is what we wish most for them, that they would expect better for their lives. Me too, LG I must do the same. Hang in there. You have been through the wringer. Take very good care of yourself. Hugs Leafy [/QUOTE]
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