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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="skeeter" data-source="post: 59143" data-attributes="member: 439"><p>Hi Mikey - </p><p></p><p>I've not responded to your thread before, but I have read them.</p><p></p><p>I'm still a little confused. You stated he's "way behind on bills", but he still has a car and a phone. Why? Does he have a bike? Do you have public transportation? He doesn't need (or deserve) a car, especially one that is in your name. If he's not driving, he doesn't need a phone, either. Or as already stated, get one that can only call 911.</p><p></p><p>Also agree on nuking his room. A mattress, and boxes and/or hangers for clothes is all he needs. Oh - and he does his laundry, too, or he has no clean clothes. If you must buy him toiletries, make them the cheapest possible.</p><p></p><p>Make sure there's always PNB and bread in the house, so if he misses meals, he knows that's his option. And that's ALL he has for an option - no eating the families left overs.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, but it seems that your son still has at least some of the "good" life. He needs to realize just what he needs to do to be a responsible adult.</p><p></p><p>I know it's tough, and I know you'll have arguments. When he proves trustworthy, you can start talking about reinstating privilages. Not before.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="skeeter, post: 59143, member: 439"] Hi Mikey - I've not responded to your thread before, but I have read them. I'm still a little confused. You stated he's "way behind on bills", but he still has a car and a phone. Why? Does he have a bike? Do you have public transportation? He doesn't need (or deserve) a car, especially one that is in your name. If he's not driving, he doesn't need a phone, either. Or as already stated, get one that can only call 911. Also agree on nuking his room. A mattress, and boxes and/or hangers for clothes is all he needs. Oh - and he does his laundry, too, or he has no clean clothes. If you must buy him toiletries, make them the cheapest possible. Make sure there's always PNB and bread in the house, so if he misses meals, he knows that's his option. And that's ALL he has for an option - no eating the families left overs. I'm sorry, but it seems that your son still has at least some of the "good" life. He needs to realize just what he needs to do to be a responsible adult. I know it's tough, and I know you'll have arguments. When he proves trustworthy, you can start talking about reinstating privilages. Not before. [/QUOTE]
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