Mrs Smith, re: <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">From one difficult child to another, I think all McWeedy selectively hears from you is that his choices are causing you and the family pain and suffering. You're a broken record and he's tuned you out. Not to mention that you pretty much told him you hate his guts!</div></div>
You are quite the mindreader. In one small paragraph, you've summed up the situation completely. Yes, I reiterate how much pain McWeedy's causing the whole family. I wouldn't go so far as to say I "hate" him, but I certainly resent him - especially after he completely boffed our Orlando trip. And I can see the "tuning out" in his eyes every time he blows it and has to suffer through one of my tirades.
One thing, though. I have no problem turning McWeedy over to wife. In fact, just before I joined CD I tried the "be your buddy" approach myself. It didn't work for me, and it never works for wife. But when I'm finally ready to pounce, she (or someone) pulls me back at the last minute, and then a week of mushy-lovey time ensues, but always ends with him acting out again.
I appreciate your input. Putting the spotlight back on him was my intent with my ultimatum. My options, his choice. I wasn't going to force any one option on him, and would support his choice to get help, or stay out of trouble till he graduated and left, or until he packed up and left in two months. His choice.
I'm not sure that's what you meant, but that's what I was trying to do.
Mikey
