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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 719553" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This "crazy lying" is a symptom of attachment disorder. Be careful. Unattached people dont have a normal conscience, dont attach, and use you for your money and other material goods. And they lie, lie, lie. I had this happen, the disconnection, with adopted child we got at age six. He walked away at about 28 and never looked back. Maybe its kinder that he doesnt torture us by coming back.</p><p></p><p>Five is too old to expect normal attachment, sometimes not even attachment therapy works. Had I known this I would have only adopted babies. The baby adoptions we did are all very strong bonds, as strong as with our biological son. Our two older child adoptions were disasters. I warn all people who want to adopt to get a baby, as young as possible. Orphanages and foster care ars both brutal and bad for attachment. Best to adopt very young babies.</p><p></p><p>Be safe. You did nothing wrong as a father. She was damaged way before you met her. You gave her a chance. You are a hero.</p><p></p><p>Your older son...same deal. He is unattached, but will probably tske from you if it is offered. It means aything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 719553, member: 1550"] This "crazy lying" is a symptom of attachment disorder. Be careful. Unattached people dont have a normal conscience, dont attach, and use you for your money and other material goods. And they lie, lie, lie. I had this happen, the disconnection, with adopted child we got at age six. He walked away at about 28 and never looked back. Maybe its kinder that he doesnt torture us by coming back. Five is too old to expect normal attachment, sometimes not even attachment therapy works. Had I known this I would have only adopted babies. The baby adoptions we did are all very strong bonds, as strong as with our biological son. Our two older child adoptions were disasters. I warn all people who want to adopt to get a baby, as young as possible. Orphanages and foster care ars both brutal and bad for attachment. Best to adopt very young babies. Be safe. You did nothing wrong as a father. She was damaged way before you met her. You gave her a chance. You are a hero. Your older son...same deal. He is unattached, but will probably tske from you if it is offered. It means aything. [/QUOTE]
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