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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 695802" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Rebelson</p><p></p><p>I agree about the maturity being years behind. My son is almost 21 and I think of him at about 17. But if I use your scale he may only be 14? Eek. </p><p></p><p>Good to know about the connection to mommy issue. I have not "talked" to my son in about a month but have texted only a few times. This is very rare for me but it feels good to me to pull away. Based on what you have said then is definitely a good thing for him too.</p><p></p><p>I hope I am wrong here but I think the signs you mention are typical that your son is not ready to change yet. I would not like that he is inseparable from another addict. It's good to have a friend but recovery is something that is done alone. I have not heard of the buddy system. I also worry for my son that his girlfriend's presence may make him not as eager to comply with the demands of the facility or take it as seriously as he has an emotional "out" of sorts.</p><p></p><p>Is he embracing the faith teaching there at all that you know of? I would be happy if my son were exposed to this. Not sure what he'd do with it though. He believes in God he says but not sure how far that goes.</p><p></p><p>On one hand you don't want them to be totally alone, since there is no family visits etc., but on the other maybe being totally alone is a good thing and would promote growth and maturity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 695802, member: 15032"] Rebelson I agree about the maturity being years behind. My son is almost 21 and I think of him at about 17. But if I use your scale he may only be 14? Eek. Good to know about the connection to mommy issue. I have not "talked" to my son in about a month but have texted only a few times. This is very rare for me but it feels good to me to pull away. Based on what you have said then is definitely a good thing for him too. I hope I am wrong here but I think the signs you mention are typical that your son is not ready to change yet. I would not like that he is inseparable from another addict. It's good to have a friend but recovery is something that is done alone. I have not heard of the buddy system. I also worry for my son that his girlfriend's presence may make him not as eager to comply with the demands of the facility or take it as seriously as he has an emotional "out" of sorts. Is he embracing the faith teaching there at all that you know of? I would be happy if my son were exposed to this. Not sure what he'd do with it though. He believes in God he says but not sure how far that goes. On one hand you don't want them to be totally alone, since there is no family visits etc., but on the other maybe being totally alone is a good thing and would promote growth and maturity. [/QUOTE]
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