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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 761513" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>Hi,</p><p>I certainly have caved before. Two steps forward and one step back. Keeping boundaries and a united front isn't easy with our difficult adult children, especially given how expensive it is out there. </p><p></p><p>When I feel compelled to go against something that my husband and I have agreed upon I now tell him: "Rational or not, this is a boundary I can't keep." Other times he helps me hold to the boundary, which I appreciate (he is my son's stepdad, so he's more objective). I also know that feeling of having caved, being caught in the middle, and feeling even worse.</p><p></p><p>Be kind to yourself. This is tough stuff. The sad thing for me is that no matter how much I've given financially, both of my difficult ones eventually end up back in the same dysfunctional situation they were in before. Would write more, but have to go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 761513, member: 19832"] Hi, I certainly have caved before. Two steps forward and one step back. Keeping boundaries and a united front isn't easy with our difficult adult children, especially given how expensive it is out there. When I feel compelled to go against something that my husband and I have agreed upon I now tell him: "Rational or not, this is a boundary I can't keep." Other times he helps me hold to the boundary, which I appreciate (he is my son's stepdad, so he's more objective). I also know that feeling of having caved, being caught in the middle, and feeling even worse. Be kind to yourself. This is tough stuff. The sad thing for me is that no matter how much I've given financially, both of my difficult ones eventually end up back in the same dysfunctional situation they were in before. Would write more, but have to go. [/QUOTE]
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