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<blockquote data-quote="4now" data-source="post: 704237" data-attributes="member: 17356"><p>Last Christmas my oldest spent the winter in Colorado. There are a great deal of resources available if they are willing to seek them out. I was convinced last year that my D.C. Was dead when he stopped all contact for a couple of weeks and I tried contacting the shelters. Because of confidentiality laws they could tell me nothing. Eventually he was arrested and brought back here for an outstanding warrant. Now he is in treatment and a sober living house. I know he is still struggling, but I am starting to understand that this is his journey, not mine. </p><p></p><p>I guess my point is that there are resources available and most of our D.C.'s are able to find and use them with just a little effort on their part. While I spent most of my holidays last year worried sick about my son, he was fine and it never even occurred to him to contact me so I didn't worry. His reasoning was that he was fine, just depressed and didn't want to talk. He had no concern or worries about what I was going through. </p><p></p><p>I had to stop and realize that he is a grown man living his life the way he chooses and isn't thinking of me much at all. That is most likely normal for young adults and in fact probably much healthier than my obsession over his life and well being.</p><p></p><p>I am slowly learning to disconnect in a healthier way and let his life proceed as he chooses.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="4now, post: 704237, member: 17356"] Last Christmas my oldest spent the winter in Colorado. There are a great deal of resources available if they are willing to seek them out. I was convinced last year that my D.C. Was dead when he stopped all contact for a couple of weeks and I tried contacting the shelters. Because of confidentiality laws they could tell me nothing. Eventually he was arrested and brought back here for an outstanding warrant. Now he is in treatment and a sober living house. I know he is still struggling, but I am starting to understand that this is his journey, not mine. I guess my point is that there are resources available and most of our D.C.'s are able to find and use them with just a little effort on their part. While I spent most of my holidays last year worried sick about my son, he was fine and it never even occurred to him to contact me so I didn't worry. His reasoning was that he was fine, just depressed and didn't want to talk. He had no concern or worries about what I was going through. I had to stop and realize that he is a grown man living his life the way he chooses and isn't thinking of me much at all. That is most likely normal for young adults and in fact probably much healthier than my obsession over his life and well being. I am slowly learning to disconnect in a healthier way and let his life proceed as he chooses. [/QUOTE]
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