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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 728565" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, hon. What a horrible experience. I can't even imagine. How dare he.</p><p></p><p>Why does he feel he CAN do it? Easy. Two reasons. First one is that some "children" don't feel the normal drive to be an adult. This is not the norm, but it is the norm with the ones who bring us here. So they, even at 30, want parents who take care of them, whether we are being taken advantage of or not. Even though it is far from age appropriate. There is a lack of seeing us as anything but their clean up people and I feel many think of themselves as forever your little kids and that you have to do what they ask during hard times. Like very little boys and girls.</p><p></p><p>The second reason is that we let themdo these abusive acts. Some of us do. We can't really see our adults as adults and we worry more than they do about having clean records, staying out of jail or prison or both and being responsible. Many of us are afraid of felonies because of it being on their records. I don't know how I would feel in this situation. It never happened to me. From a back seat drivers perspective, he seriously broke the law and probably won't stop unless forced to and he isn't doing much with his life anyway. Felony? Does itimatter now? I dont and cant know. If he breaks into a strangers house, and he could, he will find no such mercy. But again I never had to face this.</p><p></p><p>I think he will have to stop doing these things when you make him stop, maybe a restraining order. I think he is in the mindset of doing whatever he can get away with. From my back seat driver perspective, I know it was hard to call the cops but I think it's good that you did. This is a grown man who hit his own father. You both need in my opinion to be safe under your roof.</p><p></p><p>I wish you love, light and peace and the sanity to make decisions that make your life better. Be good to yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 728565, member: 1550"] Hi, hon. What a horrible experience. I can't even imagine. How dare he. Why does he feel he CAN do it? Easy. Two reasons. First one is that some "children" don't feel the normal drive to be an adult. This is not the norm, but it is the norm with the ones who bring us here. So they, even at 30, want parents who take care of them, whether we are being taken advantage of or not. Even though it is far from age appropriate. There is a lack of seeing us as anything but their clean up people and I feel many think of themselves as forever your little kids and that you have to do what they ask during hard times. Like very little boys and girls. The second reason is that we let themdo these abusive acts. Some of us do. We can't really see our adults as adults and we worry more than they do about having clean records, staying out of jail or prison or both and being responsible. Many of us are afraid of felonies because of it being on their records. I don't know how I would feel in this situation. It never happened to me. From a back seat drivers perspective, he seriously broke the law and probably won't stop unless forced to and he isn't doing much with his life anyway. Felony? Does itimatter now? I dont and cant know. If he breaks into a strangers house, and he could, he will find no such mercy. But again I never had to face this. I think he will have to stop doing these things when you make him stop, maybe a restraining order. I think he is in the mindset of doing whatever he can get away with. From my back seat driver perspective, I know it was hard to call the cops but I think it's good that you did. This is a grown man who hit his own father. You both need in my opinion to be safe under your roof. I wish you love, light and peace and the sanity to make decisions that make your life better. Be good to yourself. [/QUOTE]
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