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update on 22 year old bipolar who is difficult to live with
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 606447" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I've traveled that road too, looking for rational ways of dealing with irrational data. I think it's more about you needing to gain some clarity so that you can ultimately make a very difficult choice to keep your own son away from your home, I completely understand how that goes. </p><p></p><p>Your son's responses may be a result of a yet unnamed condition and it may be the driver behind his inability to follow any rules. My own daughter is exactly the same way. It likely is a result of some condition............rather then willful disobedience and yet if he refuses to acknowledge that he has some "issues" which require assistance, your hands are tied. You said it all yourself, you want peace and he disrupts peace, whatever the cause. </p><p></p><p>Mr.Mike, the likelihood is that my daughter and your son are simply acting out of their own beliefs about what reality is, it doesn't have anything to do with you and I. They are wired in a fashion that makes them respond to life differently which causes them and us pain. The problem is that without their acknowledgment of the "issue" and seeking help, we are powerless. That powerlessness forces us to continue looking for ways to understand and fix it. It doesn't make any sense. My daughter works so incredibly hard to make her life work, it is just remarkable............when if she simply had a real job and made money, all of that struggle and hardship and suffering would cease to be................and yet she cannot make that choice, no matter what I say or anyone says. She is the captain of her ship, not me. She has always refused to acknowledge any issues or problems she has. You can't fix what you don't acknowledge.</p><p></p><p>This is monstrous for you, believe me, I understand that completely, but short of giving him a list of shelters in your area and/or finding some way you can support him where it doesn't harm you..........there isn't much else you can do. Your son clearly stated he would not follow your rules. At some point you'll have to believe him.</p><p></p><p>*********************************************************************************************</p><p></p><p>PS/I thought it might be prudent to add that my daughter and your son may benefit from being evaluated and diagnosed which might make them eligible for Disability/Social Security benefits............I did set that up for my daughter, all the resources were at her fingertips, however, she declined to go to the next step. So, even if they can't work, there are resources available to assist them, however, they would have to admit to a problem and follow through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 606447, member: 13542"] I've traveled that road too, looking for rational ways of dealing with irrational data. I think it's more about you needing to gain some clarity so that you can ultimately make a very difficult choice to keep your own son away from your home, I completely understand how that goes. Your son's responses may be a result of a yet unnamed condition and it may be the driver behind his inability to follow any rules. My own daughter is exactly the same way. It likely is a result of some condition............rather then willful disobedience and yet if he refuses to acknowledge that he has some "issues" which require assistance, your hands are tied. You said it all yourself, you want peace and he disrupts peace, whatever the cause. Mr.Mike, the likelihood is that my daughter and your son are simply acting out of their own beliefs about what reality is, it doesn't have anything to do with you and I. They are wired in a fashion that makes them respond to life differently which causes them and us pain. The problem is that without their acknowledgment of the "issue" and seeking help, we are powerless. That powerlessness forces us to continue looking for ways to understand and fix it. It doesn't make any sense. My daughter works so incredibly hard to make her life work, it is just remarkable............when if she simply had a real job and made money, all of that struggle and hardship and suffering would cease to be................and yet she cannot make that choice, no matter what I say or anyone says. She is the captain of her ship, not me. She has always refused to acknowledge any issues or problems she has. You can't fix what you don't acknowledge. This is monstrous for you, believe me, I understand that completely, but short of giving him a list of shelters in your area and/or finding some way you can support him where it doesn't harm you..........there isn't much else you can do. Your son clearly stated he would not follow your rules. At some point you'll have to believe him. ********************************************************************************************* PS/I thought it might be prudent to add that my daughter and your son may benefit from being evaluated and diagnosed which might make them eligible for Disability/Social Security benefits............I did set that up for my daughter, all the resources were at her fingertips, however, she declined to go to the next step. So, even if they can't work, there are resources available to assist them, however, they would have to admit to a problem and follow through. [/QUOTE]
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