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Update on son- The cycle continues
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<blockquote data-quote="YogiLori" data-source="post: 762760" data-attributes="member: 30044"><p>Dear Helpless,</p><p>I see myself in you so much. My son sounds so much your son too. We are never sure if it's the marijuana or a serious character flaw/personality flaw./mental illness or what. It is so hard to let go and not focus on them. I was literally going crazy, not sleeping, anxious. I would track our son and try to figure out how and when he was going to change. I recently bought the NarAnon books and attended one meeting on Zoom for the first time last week. It is literally life changing to read the book and do the workbook and attend a meeting. I felt so alone, hopeless and overwhelmed with the horrible decisions my son made again and again and again. The people that attend these meetings are exactly where we are or they have been there. For me, understanding that my life was unmanageable living with my son's decisions, recognizing that I had absolutely no control over his decisions was really freeing. Get support around you. Letting go with love - learning to detach. Believe me, I have a long way to go. I just COULD NOT stop obsessing. I still think about him constantly but know that doing that makes me feel powerless, hopeless and anxious. Focus on how to get your peace of mind. You are a loving and wonderful mother. I am so sorry you are going through this <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /> <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="YogiLori, post: 762760, member: 30044"] Dear Helpless, I see myself in you so much. My son sounds so much your son too. We are never sure if it's the marijuana or a serious character flaw/personality flaw./mental illness or what. It is so hard to let go and not focus on them. I was literally going crazy, not sleeping, anxious. I would track our son and try to figure out how and when he was going to change. I recently bought the NarAnon books and attended one meeting on Zoom for the first time last week. It is literally life changing to read the book and do the workbook and attend a meeting. I felt so alone, hopeless and overwhelmed with the horrible decisions my son made again and again and again. The people that attend these meetings are exactly where we are or they have been there. For me, understanding that my life was unmanageable living with my son's decisions, recognizing that I had absolutely no control over his decisions was really freeing. Get support around you. Letting go with love - learning to detach. Believe me, I have a long way to go. I just COULD NOT stop obsessing. I still think about him constantly but know that doing that makes me feel powerless, hopeless and anxious. Focus on how to get your peace of mind. You are a loving and wonderful mother. I am so sorry you are going through this ❤️ ❤️❤️ [/QUOTE]
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