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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 608502" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>"God grant me the serenity to accept the things you can not change" (your son's choices after rehab)</p><p>"The courage to change the things I can" (you can change yourself and your reactions to son and life in general)</p><p>"And the wisdom to know the difference."</p><p></p><p>It is not necessary to have a higher power to change. It is useful, not necessary. People quit in many different ways. My daughter never saw a rehab or an AA meeting and she just quit after seeing a "friend" who took off her long sleeved shirt and displayed all of her needle marks up and down both arms. My daughter told herself "That will be me." That was the beginning of her quitting. She did it on her own terms, when she was ready. Nobody will quit until they are completely committed to it. One of the first signs that the person is ready is he/she drops the drug using friends. You are right. My daughter had NO friends for a long time and would call and cry to me that she was lonely, but she did not go back to her druggie friends.</p><p></p><p>In the case of heroin, have you discussed Methodone with staff and son? That is one thing you can broach. </p><p></p><p>Regardless, you have no control over this situation and worrying does no good. I think it is better to concentrate on your life, the people in that life that have made GOOD choices and are supportive and fun, and, since you seem to have a higher power, like I do, give your son over to God and live a fun, rich life in spite of your son's bad choices and struggles.</p><p></p><p>You can not save him. Only one person can save him...himself. If your son truly decides to quit, you can be there for him every step of the way, but, in the end, his journey is his to take...alone.</p><p></p><p> But you can help YOURSELF tremendously.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 608502, member: 1550"] "God grant me the serenity to accept the things you can not change" (your son's choices after rehab) "The courage to change the things I can" (you can change yourself and your reactions to son and life in general) "And the wisdom to know the difference." It is not necessary to have a higher power to change. It is useful, not necessary. People quit in many different ways. My daughter never saw a rehab or an AA meeting and she just quit after seeing a "friend" who took off her long sleeved shirt and displayed all of her needle marks up and down both arms. My daughter told herself "That will be me." That was the beginning of her quitting. She did it on her own terms, when she was ready. Nobody will quit until they are completely committed to it. One of the first signs that the person is ready is he/she drops the drug using friends. You are right. My daughter had NO friends for a long time and would call and cry to me that she was lonely, but she did not go back to her druggie friends. In the case of heroin, have you discussed Methodone with staff and son? That is one thing you can broach. Regardless, you have no control over this situation and worrying does no good. I think it is better to concentrate on your life, the people in that life that have made GOOD choices and are supportive and fun, and, since you seem to have a higher power, like I do, give your son over to God and live a fun, rich life in spite of your son's bad choices and struggles. You can not save him. Only one person can save him...himself. If your son truly decides to quit, you can be there for him every step of the way, but, in the end, his journey is his to take...alone. But you can help YOURSELF tremendously. [/QUOTE]
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