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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760877" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Helpless</p><p></p><p>I wrote to you yesterday but it's a long story and I've asked RB to help me find the post and put it here. In the meanwhile I wanted to tell you that I am so sorry this has happened. The gist of my post (that is lost) is to protect yourself from your son. I believe he is under the influence of something that is altering his behavior. </p><p></p><p>But it really doesn't matter why this is happening. Only that you need to make sure it can't happen again. </p><p></p><p>I also urged you to tell your husband and show him the text. I believe in the long-run it is harmful to your son, to your relationship with him, and potentially to your marriage to conceal such a thing. I also suggested you consider telling the probation officer. </p><p></p><p>What your son is seeking is accountability, limits, and that others push back at him to hold him accountable and responsible. Even if he doesn't know this--I believe this is what he needs and what he needs from you. That you push firmly back and not keep this secret. You should not bear any part of it, and keeping it secret, it's like you're holding the bag.</p><p></p><p>Love, Copa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760877, member: 18958"] Dear Helpless I wrote to you yesterday but it's a long story and I've asked RB to help me find the post and put it here. In the meanwhile I wanted to tell you that I am so sorry this has happened. The gist of my post (that is lost) is to protect yourself from your son. I believe he is under the influence of something that is altering his behavior. But it really doesn't matter why this is happening. Only that you need to make sure it can't happen again. I also urged you to tell your husband and show him the text. I believe in the long-run it is harmful to your son, to your relationship with him, and potentially to your marriage to conceal such a thing. I also suggested you consider telling the probation officer. What your son is seeking is accountability, limits, and that others push back at him to hold him accountable and responsible. Even if he doesn't know this--I believe this is what he needs and what he needs from you. That you push firmly back and not keep this secret. You should not bear any part of it, and keeping it secret, it's like you're holding the bag. Love, Copa [/QUOTE]
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