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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 218241" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am glad you get some say in the program he goes into, so that you have a chance to pick one that will best address his needs.</p><p> </p><p>You are right about him being angry, scared, etc... And that he will probably say he hates you, and even more ugly stuff in that vein.</p><p> </p><p>HAve faith that with time and healing on everyone's part, including his sub abuse issues and mental health issues, he will move to a point where he no longer hates you.</p><p> </p><p>While I didn't have sub abuse issues, I did have a very very viciously angry child who hated me. He psoke of little but his hatred for me and his desire to kill his sister and I for a long, long time. I spent several years certain that he would end up killing someone.</p><p> </p><p>Now, well, I couldn't have a more loving son. One who sees (as much as a teen can) how hard everything was for his father, and most especially for me. He is a good kid, with a future who even tells me he loves me. It only took almost 2 years before I could look at his baby pics with-o bawling, and after that we started to heal. </p><p> </p><p>There IS hope. And there can be healing. Take time to recharge after he is placed in the facility. Give yourself time and therapy, including Al Anon. Once they can see past their own addiction/illness, they can see that we act out of love for them.</p><p> </p><p>Gentle hugs, these are the toughest days a parent can face.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 218241, member: 1233"] I am glad you get some say in the program he goes into, so that you have a chance to pick one that will best address his needs. You are right about him being angry, scared, etc... And that he will probably say he hates you, and even more ugly stuff in that vein. HAve faith that with time and healing on everyone's part, including his sub abuse issues and mental health issues, he will move to a point where he no longer hates you. While I didn't have sub abuse issues, I did have a very very viciously angry child who hated me. He psoke of little but his hatred for me and his desire to kill his sister and I for a long, long time. I spent several years certain that he would end up killing someone. Now, well, I couldn't have a more loving son. One who sees (as much as a teen can) how hard everything was for his father, and most especially for me. He is a good kid, with a future who even tells me he loves me. It only took almost 2 years before I could look at his baby pics with-o bawling, and after that we started to heal. There IS hope. And there can be healing. Take time to recharge after he is placed in the facility. Give yourself time and therapy, including Al Anon. Once they can see past their own addiction/illness, they can see that we act out of love for them. Gentle hugs, these are the toughest days a parent can face. [/QUOTE]
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