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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 94456" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>I liked Pony's idea of the rooming house very much. You can always offer to help more later ~ but you cannot suddenly decide to do less without seeming controlling or petty.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child would do so well the first few months at home ~ but then, he would slip once or twice and the next thing anyone knew, he was right back at it. The thing is that once they are living at home and you KNOW they have done something they shouldn't, it's too easy to convince yourself it was just a slip up and it won't happen again.</p><p></p><p>No one wants to rock the boat, and the addicted person spins out of control while everyone is pretending they see nothing wrong.</p><p></p><p>At least, that is how it was at our house.</p><p></p><p>The last time difficult child was home, I would say, point blank, "Don't use drugs." Or "You know what the problem is ~ it's that you used drugs." Things like that.</p><p></p><p>And husband got really mad at me.</p><p></p><p>Once they're home again, no one wants to fight, or to make waves.</p><p></p><p>So I say the rooming house idea is a really good one.</p><p></p><p>Or the YMCA.</p><p></p><p>Do they still do that?</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 94456, member: 3353"] I liked Pony's idea of the rooming house very much. You can always offer to help more later ~ but you cannot suddenly decide to do less without seeming controlling or petty. Our difficult child would do so well the first few months at home ~ but then, he would slip once or twice and the next thing anyone knew, he was right back at it. The thing is that once they are living at home and you KNOW they have done something they shouldn't, it's too easy to convince yourself it was just a slip up and it won't happen again. No one wants to rock the boat, and the addicted person spins out of control while everyone is pretending they see nothing wrong. At least, that is how it was at our house. The last time difficult child was home, I would say, point blank, "Don't use drugs." Or "You know what the problem is ~ it's that you used drugs." Things like that. And husband got really mad at me. Once they're home again, no one wants to fight, or to make waves. So I say the rooming house idea is a really good one. Or the YMCA. Do they still do that? Barbara [/QUOTE]
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