Quick note..
We are all different.
I’m not sure at all my acquaintance’s way of handling her “situation” will work. It seems to be. But, who really knows. And her son didn’t seem to drink or use drugs other than marijuana. He also caught on that working was a good thing. Not sure if he wants to , can or will work full time. But, part time is better than nothing and the rest might come along. It’s an unknown.
We can’t truly compare ourselves to others though.
I had a bio child and since I’m an only child didn’t like the idea of having just one. I had too many health problems to give birth again. Sooo I suggested we adopt. Omg. Oops. My Difficult Child is adopted. I spent time in therapy reviewing that decision...believe me.
I know I’m not the same person after two specific life events: early death of my mother and having a Difficult Child. Both turned my life upside down. Both were not my fault. Helpless, hopeless...great confusion and pain. But life moved on.
Love them as best as you can. Do what seems right. Set boundaries. Don’t let your soul get crushed. Don’t blame yourself. I know there were many times I had to lean heavily on my Higher Power. This stuff is hard as heck. But you are strong.
