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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 709894" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>If you are talk about the lackluster feeling about life, my own life, that comes when I feel estranged with my son, I know this place. Or terrified about where and how he is.</p><p></p><p>And sure as day, when I see him...I find myself again. It is horrible to feel so tethered to the well-being and essence of a human being that ones own essence almost hangs in the balance. (Gee. No wonder detaching is so difficult for me....)</p><p></p><p>STOP IT.</p><p></p><p>This is not a religious rant. But I have come to believe that each of us has a divinely given purpose. That I am required (I require it of myself) to dig down, to dig in, and to reach up and out)...to nourish myself and those around me...because it is here that the best I have to be, to give, to do...in this life...resides. My son requires that I be that person. I require it. And you may, too. As I need you, too.</p><p></p><p>We will all die. Me. You. My son. Yours. And what we leave that endures will come from this place. And guess what? If we all contribute a little bit, maybe civilization itself endures. And if we don't? I don't even want to contemplate it.</p><p></p><p>Going to Jamaica for you is about this. (*Of all places, Jamaica, is this.) If you choose to deny yourself this....you serve not one positive thing. Actually, it is self-indulgence. It is theater. And we would denounce it if our children came from this same place.</p><p></p><p>I do not mean to be overly dramatic, and certainly not judgmental; but <u>I want you to go and enjoy yourself</u>. I want you to have a whole lot of fun. For all of us.</p><p></p><p>Your worry will not serve your son. He is better served (a hundred times more) by your going. By your flourishing. With your example of how to live. He needs to know just exactly where his poor choices lead. (Away from Jamaica.)</p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are suffering. More of it will not help him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 709894, member: 18958"] If you are talk about the lackluster feeling about life, my own life, that comes when I feel estranged with my son, I know this place. Or terrified about where and how he is. And sure as day, when I see him...I find myself again. It is horrible to feel so tethered to the well-being and essence of a human being that ones own essence almost hangs in the balance. (Gee. No wonder detaching is so difficult for me....) STOP IT. This is not a religious rant. But I have come to believe that each of us has a divinely given purpose. That I am required (I require it of myself) to dig down, to dig in, and to reach up and out)...to nourish myself and those around me...because it is here that the best I have to be, to give, to do...in this life...resides. My son requires that I be that person. I require it. And you may, too. As I need you, too. We will all die. Me. You. My son. Yours. And what we leave that endures will come from this place. And guess what? If we all contribute a little bit, maybe civilization itself endures. And if we don't? I don't even want to contemplate it. Going to Jamaica for you is about this. (*Of all places, Jamaica, is this.) If you choose to deny yourself this....you serve not one positive thing. Actually, it is self-indulgence. It is theater. And we would denounce it if our children came from this same place. I do not mean to be overly dramatic, and certainly not judgmental; but [U]I want you to go and enjoy yourself[/U]. I want you to have a whole lot of fun. For all of us. Your worry will not serve your son. He is better served (a hundred times more) by your going. By your flourishing. With your example of how to live. He needs to know just exactly where his poor choices lead. (Away from Jamaica.) I am sorry you are suffering. More of it will not help him. [/QUOTE]
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