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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 761853" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I’m so sorry. I am more like you. So, I suppose I can’t be much help. My husband is a bit more like your husband. I was always trying to establish limits and boundaries. He did too….but not as much. He often felt it was futile as efforts seem to result in little to no improvement. One day recently…she went over the top in our case and it became obvious we could no longer tolerate her horrible behavior toward us. I guess so much depends on how bad the behavior is, if they are willing to at least usually accept some boundaries, your willingness to let some things go…a conglomerate of things. I hate lying but lying over small things is more very annoying and frustrating usually than dangerous, etc. Kind of disrespectful too. If it crosses the line into abusive or dangerous…that might be a very different story. Of note…your wording “it harms my soul” says a lot. It might be a very good idea to limit your interaction with her. And seek help if you haven’t already. It sounds like it is VERY hurtful and there could come a time that you might have to set up tremendous boundaries to protect yourself. And if it worsens…(I hope not)…disengage. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 761853, member: 4152"] I’m so sorry. I am more like you. So, I suppose I can’t be much help. My husband is a bit more like your husband. I was always trying to establish limits and boundaries. He did too….but not as much. He often felt it was futile as efforts seem to result in little to no improvement. One day recently…she went over the top in our case and it became obvious we could no longer tolerate her horrible behavior toward us. I guess so much depends on how bad the behavior is, if they are willing to at least usually accept some boundaries, your willingness to let some things go…a conglomerate of things. I hate lying but lying over small things is more very annoying and frustrating usually than dangerous, etc. Kind of disrespectful too. If it crosses the line into abusive or dangerous…that might be a very different story. Of note…your wording “it harms my soul” says a lot. It might be a very good idea to limit your interaction with her. And seek help if you haven’t already. It sounds like it is VERY hurtful and there could come a time that you might have to set up tremendous boundaries to protect yourself. And if it worsens…(I hope not)…disengage. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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