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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 557967" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Sorry you are in this situation. Unfortunately it's not foreign to me at all. With both difficult child and easy child. Around here we have this proverb about stupidity accumulating in groups. <strong>Very </strong>true with little (and not so little) boys.</p><p></p><p>You may want to tell your neighbours that J's and his friend's play got out of the hand and some reason J did something stupid and broke the window, that you and J are very sorry and you will of course compensate the window and do they want you to put cardboard or something for temporary protection to the window. </p><p></p><p>By the way, those elderly brothers may very well have personal experiences of doing something very similar, most men seem to have.</p><p></p><p>While not backing away from consequence you have given to J, for future use you may want to think something more short term. J is young, he probably doesn't really remember what happened month from now, much less near Christmas. He also gets so used to new rule about no toys before Christmas, that he will likely not even remember that he is punished. With my boys I noticed that maximum punishment of anything that could still be effective pretty much lasted their age in days. Now easy child can probably remember what he did wrong more than two weeks, but still short and swift seems to be more effective.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 557967, member: 14557"] Sorry you are in this situation. Unfortunately it's not foreign to me at all. With both difficult child and easy child. Around here we have this proverb about stupidity accumulating in groups. [B]Very [/B]true with little (and not so little) boys. You may want to tell your neighbours that J's and his friend's play got out of the hand and some reason J did something stupid and broke the window, that you and J are very sorry and you will of course compensate the window and do they want you to put cardboard or something for temporary protection to the window. By the way, those elderly brothers may very well have personal experiences of doing something very similar, most men seem to have. While not backing away from consequence you have given to J, for future use you may want to think something more short term. J is young, he probably doesn't really remember what happened month from now, much less near Christmas. He also gets so used to new rule about no toys before Christmas, that he will likely not even remember that he is punished. With my boys I noticed that maximum punishment of anything that could still be effective pretty much lasted their age in days. Now easy child can probably remember what he did wrong more than two weeks, but still short and swift seems to be more effective. [/QUOTE]
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