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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 748840" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I'm so sorry. We will not speak with our daughter if she is verbally abusive.</p><p>We will block the phone...for a period of time..</p><p>We have cut her off for periods of time in the past.</p><p>Knock on wood and crossing myself, this has been effective.</p><p>She avoids verbally abusing us now. It's NOT tolerated. Occasionally, she will use the "f" word...not at us...but peppered in her conversation. We will warn her that we don't care for it. It usually, just escalates from there. If she doesn't stop it immediately, we get off the phone. She gets the message and stops.</p><p>Additionally, our daughter gets a food allowance. If it seems warranted, we will give her extra. If she pushes her luck...she is cut off. She can and will abuse us when it comes to money for food and for going out, etc. If she eats all her food money allotment, and doesn't have a very good reason why, she doesn't get extra from us and she has gone to food banks before. She has accepted the fact that if she is at a food bank it is because she has messed up royally. I hope and pray it teaches her to do better in the future. Not to eat a several days of food in one day. She is slow to pick up on things like that. However, if we didn't pull back when she messes up, she wouldn't learn at all...there would be no hope for improvement at all. Boundaries are key.</p><p> Thank goodness for these food banks and churches that supply food for the homeless and / or mentally ill.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 748840, member: 4152"] I'm so sorry. We will not speak with our daughter if she is verbally abusive. We will block the phone...for a period of time.. We have cut her off for periods of time in the past. Knock on wood and crossing myself, this has been effective. She avoids verbally abusing us now. It's NOT tolerated. Occasionally, she will use the "f" word...not at us...but peppered in her conversation. We will warn her that we don't care for it. It usually, just escalates from there. If she doesn't stop it immediately, we get off the phone. She gets the message and stops. Additionally, our daughter gets a food allowance. If it seems warranted, we will give her extra. If she pushes her luck...she is cut off. She can and will abuse us when it comes to money for food and for going out, etc. If she eats all her food money allotment, and doesn't have a very good reason why, she doesn't get extra from us and she has gone to food banks before. She has accepted the fact that if she is at a food bank it is because she has messed up royally. I hope and pray it teaches her to do better in the future. Not to eat a several days of food in one day. She is slow to pick up on things like that. However, if we didn't pull back when she messes up, she wouldn't learn at all...there would be no hope for improvement at all. Boundaries are key. Thank goodness for these food banks and churches that supply food for the homeless and / or mentally ill. [/QUOTE]
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