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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 35039" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Hearthope, I've only occasionally responded on this thread because reading these posts reminds me SO, SO much of where my husband and I were a year or so ago in terms of our son's marijuana use--at least, in our case--denial, in terms of the significant impact that this was having on our son, specifically his growth, emotionally and otherwise, and also on our family in general.</p><p></p><p>We, like many others, thought that we were making it very clear to our son that marijuana and any other drugs would not be tolerated in our home. In fact, our own ambivalent feelings about pot (although we didn't see that this was the case at the time...), I truly believe, made our responses to our son's pot use similarly ambivalent. </p><p></p><p>Those of you who know our story know that I was trying my darndest to put a good face on what was basically a disaster waiting to happen, and that, several times, I found the "take no prisoner's approach" of some of you on the boards very difficult to accept. Yet, again, in retrospect, I can see now that you, much better than I, because you had been through it, could so CLEARLY see where our son and our family were headed and that, because you cared, you certainly weren't going to baby me through the process. And, you were right, and I very much appreciate your forthrightness. </p><p></p><p>I only wish now that we had taken the advice of many of you and issued an ultimatum about drug use with clear consequences should he chose to continue using them. Unfortunately, because of not wanting to "rock the boat" and upsetting the status quo, such as it was, we didn't follow through, and our son quickly figured out that we, while telling him every day that we would not tolerate drugs, in fact, did so by not taking any sort of proactive route. </p><p></p><p>We can see now that this diminished us in his eyes, and we lost some of what little amount of respect he had for us. Just my 2 cents...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 35039, member: 1835"] Hearthope, I've only occasionally responded on this thread because reading these posts reminds me SO, SO much of where my husband and I were a year or so ago in terms of our son's marijuana use--at least, in our case--denial, in terms of the significant impact that this was having on our son, specifically his growth, emotionally and otherwise, and also on our family in general. We, like many others, thought that we were making it very clear to our son that marijuana and any other drugs would not be tolerated in our home. In fact, our own ambivalent feelings about pot (although we didn't see that this was the case at the time...), I truly believe, made our responses to our son's pot use similarly ambivalent. Those of you who know our story know that I was trying my darndest to put a good face on what was basically a disaster waiting to happen, and that, several times, I found the "take no prisoner's approach" of some of you on the boards very difficult to accept. Yet, again, in retrospect, I can see now that you, much better than I, because you had been through it, could so CLEARLY see where our son and our family were headed and that, because you cared, you certainly weren't going to baby me through the process. And, you were right, and I very much appreciate your forthrightness. I only wish now that we had taken the advice of many of you and issued an ultimatum about drug use with clear consequences should he chose to continue using them. Unfortunately, because of not wanting to "rock the boat" and upsetting the status quo, such as it was, we didn't follow through, and our son quickly figured out that we, while telling him every day that we would not tolerate drugs, in fact, did so by not taking any sort of proactive route. We can see now that this diminished us in his eyes, and we lost some of what little amount of respect he had for us. Just my 2 cents... [/QUOTE]
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