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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 711655" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>You are exactly right, Teri, when you say you won't get the truth.</p><p></p><p>In many cases, our difficult adult kids don't know the answers either.</p><p></p><p>They often don't remember. Their minds were clouded by substances, or it just wasn't a big deal to them and it has slipped from their memory. </p><p></p><p>Most can't tell you why they do the things they do, or what set them on a different path. It's probably a combination of things.</p><p></p><p>My particular Difficult Child would often tell us what he thought we wanted to hear. He would tell his mom different things. I remember once she confronted his dad because D.C. Had told his mom that we forced him to go to church (which would be strange, since we didn't go ourselves).</p><p></p><p>And, yes, we used to obsess about the particulars, but we finally made a conscious decision to stop. </p><p></p><p>It is a choice. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes it is a choice to dwell on those questions, and thereby avoid living our lives.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 711655, member: 16024"] You are exactly right, Teri, when you say you won't get the truth. In many cases, our difficult adult kids don't know the answers either. They often don't remember. Their minds were clouded by substances, or it just wasn't a big deal to them and it has slipped from their memory. Most can't tell you why they do the things they do, or what set them on a different path. It's probably a combination of things. My particular Difficult Child would often tell us what he thought we wanted to hear. He would tell his mom different things. I remember once she confronted his dad because D.C. Had told his mom that we forced him to go to church (which would be strange, since we didn't go ourselves). And, yes, we used to obsess about the particulars, but we finally made a conscious decision to stop. It is a choice. Sometimes it is a choice to dwell on those questions, and thereby avoid living our lives. [/QUOTE]
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