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<blockquote data-quote="tryingtobestrong" data-source="post: 758726" data-attributes="member: 22817"><p>Hello, just wanted to update that my son is in a treatment facility but will be discharged Monday or Tuesday... He is refusing to do sober living, refuses to do IOP or OP and refused my offer to get a recovery/life coach to see once a week. Instead, is going back to his apartment above the store that he bought his booze from.. He has a sponsor and is on step 9 which is the furthest he has came on the steps. He seems happy at the treatment facility and said this is the first time he is excited to be sober. He found a guy that is moving to his area from a different state in Nov. and he doesn't do drugs, etc. so they did get approved for an apartment. So for the next 60-80 days he will be living alone... He said he is scared to death to be alone but still refuses to do the sober living for 2 months... Unbelievable. We offered a nice incentive but the answer was no and some added words.</p><p>So... he said "since you were going to put that money towards sober living, how about putting that towards a downpayment for a car. I need a car to go to the mountains, to the meetings, etc." I said No, that money was for sober living nothing else.. </p><p>He still doesn't give up. Everyday I get a text that he needs a car ASAP... I ignore it. </p><p> I emailed his counselor but have not received a reply yet. I thought that there would be a family phone meeting to set boundaries but I guess not. I want to know when is the right time to tell him this was the last time we will pay for treatment or anything. If he gets a car and has issues with that due to drinking, we are not helping (i.e. dui, lawyer, etc)</p><p>I know... I am not thinking positive! How can one think that way when he refuses to do anything different? He calls the shots and won't do anything he is uncomfortable with.</p><p>So, I feel "here we go again.." </p><p>Sorry, had to reach out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryingtobestrong, post: 758726, member: 22817"] Hello, just wanted to update that my son is in a treatment facility but will be discharged Monday or Tuesday... He is refusing to do sober living, refuses to do IOP or OP and refused my offer to get a recovery/life coach to see once a week. Instead, is going back to his apartment above the store that he bought his booze from.. He has a sponsor and is on step 9 which is the furthest he has came on the steps. He seems happy at the treatment facility and said this is the first time he is excited to be sober. He found a guy that is moving to his area from a different state in Nov. and he doesn't do drugs, etc. so they did get approved for an apartment. So for the next 60-80 days he will be living alone... He said he is scared to death to be alone but still refuses to do the sober living for 2 months... Unbelievable. We offered a nice incentive but the answer was no and some added words. So... he said "since you were going to put that money towards sober living, how about putting that towards a downpayment for a car. I need a car to go to the mountains, to the meetings, etc." I said No, that money was for sober living nothing else.. He still doesn't give up. Everyday I get a text that he needs a car ASAP... I ignore it. I emailed his counselor but have not received a reply yet. I thought that there would be a family phone meeting to set boundaries but I guess not. I want to know when is the right time to tell him this was the last time we will pay for treatment or anything. If he gets a car and has issues with that due to drinking, we are not helping (i.e. dui, lawyer, etc) I know... I am not thinking positive! How can one think that way when he refuses to do anything different? He calls the shots and won't do anything he is uncomfortable with. So, I feel "here we go again.." Sorry, had to reach out. [/QUOTE]
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