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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 724208" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>This is hard stuff newstart, all of us go upside down, sideways and in many directions before we find our way. It's a process. It's one day at a time. As everyone around here says, 'nothing changes until something changes.' YOU will need to be the one who changes.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter manipulates you. It's abusive and disrespectful. I agree with Going North, make her pay the remainder of the rent money and then, if she cannot pay on time, evict her. Get all your ducks in order. It is HIGHLY likely that this behavior will continue until YOU stop it. How much longer do you want this to continue? <em>It will continue as long as YOU allow it.</em></p><p></p><p>The way we parents put a stop to this kind of behavior is to stop accepting it. To stop accepting this behavior most of us need a lot of support, usually from professionals, to stop enabling our adult kids and allow them to suffer whatever consequences their choices lead them to. That's the really hard part, to NOT step in before the consequences begin for them.</p><p></p><p>Set strong, impenetrable boundaries. Figure out what you want and then implement it. Don't allow your daughter to run your life into the ground. You matter and you deserve a life of peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 724208, member: 13542"] This is hard stuff newstart, all of us go upside down, sideways and in many directions before we find our way. It's a process. It's one day at a time. As everyone around here says, 'nothing changes until something changes.' YOU will need to be the one who changes. Your daughter manipulates you. It's abusive and disrespectful. I agree with Going North, make her pay the remainder of the rent money and then, if she cannot pay on time, evict her. Get all your ducks in order. It is HIGHLY likely that this behavior will continue until YOU stop it. How much longer do you want this to continue? [I]It will continue as long as YOU allow it.[/I] The way we parents put a stop to this kind of behavior is to stop accepting it. To stop accepting this behavior most of us need a lot of support, usually from professionals, to stop enabling our adult kids and allow them to suffer whatever consequences their choices lead them to. That's the really hard part, to NOT step in before the consequences begin for them. Set strong, impenetrable boundaries. Figure out what you want and then implement it. Don't allow your daughter to run your life into the ground. You matter and you deserve a life of peace. [/QUOTE]
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