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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 724263" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>newstart, I have so much empathy for you, you've essentially lost both of your kids. I am so sorry. I know how you feel, I felt the same way a mere 6 years ago, when my daughter began her journey thru hell. I raised my younger sister too, but as a result of bi-polar and other mental illness' my sister estranged herself from the entire family, so I can relate to losing those you raise....</p><p></p><p>Your heart is broken, you're depleted, exhausted, grieving, full of sorrow and hurt.....the recognition that you need to detach from your daughter is mind blowingly devastating, especially after losing your son......I can't imagine how hard this is for you.</p><p></p><p>As you grieve your way thru this, get yourself some serious support to get you thru it and begin the process of putting yourself first, focus on YOU. Each day do nourishing, kind, compassionate things for yourself. That's the way I got thru this........LOTS of support, putting myself as the priority, learning to accept what I can't change and learning to live in the present moment...letting the past go and not further tripping. It's hard newstart......but you can heal from this and go on to thrive as opposed to struggling and simply surviving.</p><p></p><p>Read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post......read the book, Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie......and put yourself as the priority. Take care of YOU now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 724263, member: 13542"] newstart, I have so much empathy for you, you've essentially lost both of your kids. I am so sorry. I know how you feel, I felt the same way a mere 6 years ago, when my daughter began her journey thru hell. I raised my younger sister too, but as a result of bi-polar and other mental illness' my sister estranged herself from the entire family, so I can relate to losing those you raise.... Your heart is broken, you're depleted, exhausted, grieving, full of sorrow and hurt.....the recognition that you need to detach from your daughter is mind blowingly devastating, especially after losing your son......I can't imagine how hard this is for you. As you grieve your way thru this, get yourself some serious support to get you thru it and begin the process of putting yourself first, focus on YOU. Each day do nourishing, kind, compassionate things for yourself. That's the way I got thru this........LOTS of support, putting myself as the priority, learning to accept what I can't change and learning to live in the present moment...letting the past go and not further tripping. It's hard newstart......but you can heal from this and go on to thrive as opposed to struggling and simply surviving. Read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post......read the book, Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie......and put yourself as the priority. Take care of YOU now. [/QUOTE]
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